When I get a match on a dating app, and it’s going well, I often run into the problem of not knowing how to conclude texting for the day. My social battery runs out pretty quickly when texting. Especially when I just met the other person that day. I usually just tell a white lie.
So does anyone maybe have a good line on how to end things casually, for the day? Or is this something you should tell them beforehand? Or is telling a white lie the proper way to go in this scenario?
Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.
Hey, thanks for taking the time to chat, I enjoyed it! I gotta crash, but I’d really like to pick this up again tomorrow.
Be honest with them. There is nothing wrong with saying that you need to take a break from the app. You don’t have to go into detail either; a simple, “It’s been great chatting, I need to go do something else for a bit. Would you mind picking this back up later?” should suffice.
And if it doesn’t suffice – i.e., they get offended – then maybe they aren’t what you’re looking for in a relationship. Healthy relationships, even in the beginning, should be based on honesty, openness, and each person willing to give the other their space.
As for how much to talk to them on the app, whether to give out your phone number, or to meet them in person, is completely up to you and them and how you both feel things are moving along. There is no need to pressure yourself or the other person with some preconceived notion of how to do dating. Everyone is different. No two people will interact the same way. Trust your gut and talk to your potential partner about what they are comfortable with doing.
And congrats! Good luck!
Just don’t reply for a while? It’s pretty normal for people to not reply to a text instantly every time.
Or just say “Logging off my phone for the evening, have a nice night!” sorta thing.
Goodnight, talk soon.
I just don’t respond if I’m doing something else or calling it a night. It’s ok to set boundaries by just taking your time to respond. You don’t have to respond immediately and it’s not really healthy to expect them to every time either. Anyone that can’t handle that and stops responding just isn’t going to be a match for you if you need to have that kind of break from responding. I’m definitely opposed to the white lies, I prefer someone I’m communicating with to at least respect me enough to be up front about it if they say anything at all, but I don’t need a reason if they don’t respond for hours or even a day or so.
“Alright i gotta go do some stuff. I’ll text you tomorrow”
GG, idgaf
GG EZ
unless you’re going to start sending feet pics I’m done for the day
“I’m tired. I’ll talk to you tomorrow”
You know anyone for whom this line has worked well? 🤨
The line doesn’t seem like a problem. It’s normal to need time to yourself. I think the people with whom this line doesn’t work well are the actual problem.
I guess it’s in the delivery a little bit, as well. I’d add some embellishments so as not to seem dismissive. 😅
Ask if they prefer an Irish Goodbye or a Midwestern Goodbye.
In my book, getting to that point without a plan to meet is a failed interaction. No one wants to text all day. It’s the small talk we do to get to the point where we meet people we’re interested in. It’s a tryout to make sure you’re not a weirdo or jackass. So do a little ice breaker, discuss two to three topics, then suggest exchanging phone numbers so you can meet up sometime. No one wants to text for three days straight. They’re waiting for you to ask for their number.
Lots of texting in the presence of such doubts is destructive IMHO. Have a voice phone call instead. If you have to text I’d say “I have to go offline pretty soon, I’ll be free tomorrow after about 6pm” or whatever. I just hate long text conversations though.
Mention wanting to save battery life.
