• AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Spoken like someone who isn’t afraid of potential dates. Lol.

      No way I’m meeting privately on a first date with someone I don’t know. I’d rather be stood up in the restaurant.

    • volvoxvsmarla @lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      Genuine question - do people seriously have dates in restaurants? I’m 32 and never have I ever been asked on a date in a restaurant. Cafe, sure. But a full on meal with a person? I literally don’t know anyone who went on a first/early date in a restaurant. I assumed that’s a 90s thing that was nowadays only taking place in movies and sitcoms.

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          1 year ago

          How do you call that big sidewalk alongside a beach? That was awesome. Long walk just talking and listening.

          Esplanade?

          And yeah I agree just a long walk’n’talk where you don’t have to constantly look at the other person is kind of the best to get to know someone.

          And ffs movies… I had one first date at the movies and this was really awful. Especially since afterwards we drove home (not together). Like, what was that even?

          The only way it works is if you go have drinks afterwards and heatedly discuss the movie. But for this you have to meet a cinemaholic and the movie has to have been at least not neutral. Maybe still better on a second or third date than first.

          Maybe I’ve never been to a restaurant because I effectively stopped dating at 24 and before that I just wasn’t in the age group that could afford restaurants?

    • explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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      1 year ago

      Once I went on a date with someone, we were both perfectly reasonable and polite, and we both felt zero chemistry midway through the date and ended it early. It was the best terrible date I’ve ever had.