How many of you consider texting an ex that was an amicable breakup to see if they’d be up for a hookup.

Update : I created a group text with all of them and now we are planning a 30 person Orgy at the Marriott in San Francisco.

Lol jk I just woke up and made eggs.

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    I’mma leave this up since I’m late to the party on this one and there’s already a discussion, but in the future please remember rule #2 and phrase all post titles in the form of a question. This is like Jeopardy! ;)

    On that note, if everyone is on board and copacetic, I say go for it and you deserve some mad props for pulling that off.

    In my experience, drunk texting an ex is never a good idea, but it takes different strokes to move the world.

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      Awwww beans, thanks for your flexibility!

      From a mod of one community to another- game recognizes game 🏆 thank you for what you do.

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    Don’t ever text an ex while drunk.

    Thought: “I want to text my ex”

    1. Is it past 8pm? Do not text.
    2. Are you drunk? Do not text.
    3. Jack off, then consider again if you still want to text
    4. Did you break up with them, leaving mixed feelings? Do not text, you will hurt them
    5. Did they break up with you? Do not text. You will hurt yourself.
    6. Was it a mutual break up? Then why do you want to hook up? Someone will get hurt.

    Unless you were previously just a fling/FWB, hooking up randomly with a long term ex is the pathway to pain and hurt, for one or both of you. If one of you is still healing, you will just reopen that wound.

    Do not drunk text your ex for a hook up.

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    Don’t listen to everyone else, they clearly don’t know your situation and that it is totally different to theirs. It’s a fantastic idea, and can only end in the situation you are hoping for. Please keep us updated on how it goes :)

    In case that wasn’t motivating enough for you to try this amazing idea and report back to us (v. important) try these sentences:

    • you miss all the shots you don’t take
    • would you rather live the rest of your life not knowing?
    • if no one took risks, we’d have never crossed the seas
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    I consider this fairly often, since I’m often drunk and plenty of my past relationships ended amicably. And, every single time that I sober up, I’m glad that I didn’t call/text any of my exes.

    So don’t do that. Wait until you’re sober, and it’s daytime where you live, and you’re sexually satisfied, then think again if you should be texting them.

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    I don’t want to sound judgemental or anything, but how about making this decision at the point of your life when you are not getting drunk to even consider this option?

    Because obviously, I don’t know the effects of this decision and no one else here could fully know, but I am sure, the best, most healthy decisions are made from a proper starting position.