How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Old Dale sets out in the 1920s to find a book about how to get along with people and gain confidence. What’s the secret sauce? He travels to many universities, corresponds with professors and other learned men, all to find there is no such book of wisdom! So he wrote one.
First off, it’s not some step-by-step textbook. The author himself says you can open it to any given chapter and have a read. True! Most of it is Carnegie telling short stories of his experiences and what he learned about people. Couple of examples that stick with me:
He finds himself at a dinner party where the host will not, cannot STFU. The man goes on and on so Carnegie listens politely and hardly says a word. By the end of the evening the host is walking him out telling him what a great orator and conversationalist he is!
In another story a man is terribly afraid of some near-future event, I think he fears losing his job? Carnegie walks him through his fears always asking him to imagine the worst outcome and then asking if he could live with it, not die. The answer is always yes.
It’s long been in the public domain.
Huh. I have my own sayings for both of those scenarios. "The best way to be interesting is to be interested."
I should read this book.
It’s a good read (or listen if you’re into audiobooks) but it’s also easy to find the main points summarized.
Agreed! But the real-life stories hammer those points home.
“Discover What You’re Best At” by Linda Gail.
I found this book when I was out of work due to an injury. You can do the self tests in half a day, and the jobs they suggest go from entry level to college graduate. When you can get up on a rainy Monday morning and feel okay about going to work you’ve solved most of life’s problems.
At what are you best? I usually got stuff like lumberjack or garbage man on aptitude tests at school.
There are six self tests in the book. Things like math, mechanical problems, leadership, etc.
A product demonstrator, a nurse, and a hair stylist all need good dexterity and good people skills. Three totally different jobs with similar skill sets.
That sounds neat, thanks for telling us about it.
Good luck
Arch Linux Installation Guide = How to take back control over our own computing, plus some extra tech skills, useful irrespective of your occupation or hobbies. I would suggest doing it a second device, like when already buying a new computer, so your stuff stays safe on the old one.
Lmao it’s not Lemmy without Linux
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The Tao of Pooh. If you are someone who has trouble taking a deep breath and being in the moment, slowing things down, this can be a helpful read. That and Zen And The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance helped me.
Time to read Zen again.
Capital by Marx - class consciousness and economic literacy
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Helps you understand how to set boundaries at work and general relationships, helped me as someone who’s a pretty big people pleaser.
Read it years ago when I was religious and it does have a Christian tone but it’s not overt or excessive. Looks like they re-released it recently.
Looking this up like right now!
The ENIAC, one of the original ‘programmable’ general purpose digital computers.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/ENIAC
https://books.google.com/books/about/ENIAC_the_Triumphs_and_Tragedies_of_the.html?id=l2nGQgAACAAJ
This was a significant era of computing history, and in the modern digital era, I think everyone should at least get a sense of the early days of digital technology.
The phantom tollbooth, basic empathy.
“A Conversation with God” I’m not religious but this definitely shifted how I view the world and our place in the universe
Brown, Derren - Tricks Of The Mind. The chapter about memory.
We are only being taught in schools, but never taught how to learn.
The 7 habits of highly effective people. Stephen R. Covey
I like so much this book, it teaches so many things, one of those that I preach more is the 4 quadrant matrix for effective time management: An enlightening tool for people that live their lives solving crisis after crisis.
Any recipie book for homebrewing.
It just gives you ideas what to do, you have to figure out/iron out the techniques. They are for each settup different so with any book/manual you have to tinker with it yourself.
Please give a specific recommendation. It helps with the choice paralysis lol
Sorry the only one that I used is in Czech. If you want to look it up:
“Pivařka” ISBN 978-80-7565-108-2
It has more general information (little bit useless for homebrewing) but half of it are recipes.
“Nonviolent Communication” by Marshall Rosenberg.
The lessons for communication and non-reactivity will pay dividends in every aspect of your interpersonal relations. Work, friendships, romantic relationships, even dealing with customer disservice.
