The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.world to Memes@sopuli.xyz · 2 months agoSorry to be a bother...lemmy.worldimagemessage-square110fedilinkarrow-up1915arrow-down115
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minus-squareCaesium@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up8·2 months agoI’d rather take that then yet another soulless ‘how are you today’
minus-squareweker01@sh.itjust.workslinkfedilinkarrow-up23·2 months agoDo it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn’t care they shouldn’t have asked. In Germany “how are you” is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short. “Wie geht’s?” “Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?”
minus-squarexor@infosec.publinkfedilinkarrow-up4arrow-down1·2 months agoi’ve tried that but then we both lose
minus-squareexanime@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up6·2 months agoYou don’t think people would go “aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up”?
minus-squarePsychodelic@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·2 months agoIt’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children)
minus-squareexanime@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up3·2 months ago It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect
minus-squarePsychodelic@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up2·2 months agoAhh I get u now. Yeah, that’s totally true
I’d rather take that then yet another soulless ‘how are you today’
just reply with “no, i’m not”
Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn’t care they shouldn’t have asked.
In Germany “how are you” is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short.
“Wie geht’s?”
“Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?”
i’ve tried that but then we both lose
You don’t think people would go “aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up”?
It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children)
I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries
I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect
Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that’s totally true