For context: One of the rules in that community is that you aren’t allowed to post anything related to suicide. In a mental health community.
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I guess we really are trying to recreate everything about reddit here.
Thanks for the gold kind stranger!
This
r/thirdsub
😂😂😂
I don’t know why, but this made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside
The familar taste of poison
If you’d told me the most upvoted comment on my profile would be about inserting my lebanese blind vegan hamster in my urethra while playing Country Roads on the kazoo with a sombrero, I wouldn’t have believed it!!!
Well we made Reddit in the first place. Spez just came along and decided to wreck it.
Oh my god, this place is full of…Redditors!
Next up on the list of bringing over shitty Reddit concepts:
Telling every single person to break up who needs relationship advice.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but that’s because a good amount of the time it’s true…
Relationships are a lot of work, but shouldn’t be hard. If your relationship is getting so difficult that you feel the need to post your issues on the Internet to get advice from strangers, your relationship is more or less done and haven’t really noticed it yet.
If it’s a one off issue that you need some outside help to see another perspective, than breaking up is probably not the solution; however, if it’s habitual then yeah breaking up is probably for the best.
We tend to have loss aversion and get trapped in the sunken cost fallacy with relationships and can’t see that it needs to end.
That said, giving advice for a bad relationship is like seeing a person who has an addiction problem. That person needs to realize what it is, and no amount of advice can help.
I remember someone posting a asklemmy question about the “benefits of smoking” 🤦♂️
I feel bad for the person
Edit: I found the post, original post has been removed, but here’s my instance’s version that didn’t receive the deletion request: https://reddthat.com/post/822703
Benefits of smoking…well, it’s good for the environment, I suppose
It can keep Alzheimer’s at bay
I really don’t think so and I can say that from experience.
The reason I’ve posted about it before is because I can’t afford relationship counseling or even counseling for myself. And if I go to family, it’s hard for family to break away from that bias of defending you. So naturally you expect strangers to provide better advice.
That being said, yes I agree. If you’re looking for advice over stuff that is habitual, it probably warrants a breakup. My issue is that r/relationshipadvice is so fucking horrible that nearly every single post the consensus is to break up, even over minor issues. That part pisses me off. And I respectfully disagree. A lot of relationships ARE hard, and it really just depends on the dynamics. That doesn’t mean it has to consist of constant arguments and disagreements though.
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yeah I have a feelong the breakup immediately meme was started by a bunch of butthurt incel/meninist/redpiller types who would do such a thing in a relationship and don’t like it.
Hey now this has nothing to do with gender. There’s plenty of women out there that jump straight to “just break up” at the first sign of a problem.
That’s really not a Reddit exclusive thing. It’s more of an entire internet thing.
Are… are you okay?
Man, I don’t even know anymore… Covid, War in Ukraine, Climate change, Upcoming 2024 Election, feels like too much has been going on. 2024 could mean the end of everything. (I’m a non-white immigrant so I’ll be the first ones to be targeted if the election doesn’t go well).
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Can’t really say it’s not that bad so I’ll just say that I hope that your tomorrow is slightly better than your today. Also there are a lot of people that value you as a human and want you in their community. Fascists are just louder (and more dangerous). Sending you love.
Damn… Yeah, it‘s rough. Life is never all butterflies and rainbows, but it‘s also easy to forget that there is also much potential for good things to happen as well: Indulging in new and old hobbies, the next night out with friends, some really good food, a weekend trip to somewhere interesting and so much more. It‘s important to shift perspective from time to time. Keeping a journal for what you‘re grateful for/happy about is one technique to iron out that negativity bias a bit. Note that this is not the be all and end all solution for keeping all depressing thoughts at bay. If it‘s still a problem, please seek professional help.
it‘s also easy to forget that there is also much potential for good things to happen as well: Indulging in new and old hobbies, the next night out with friends, some really good food, a weekend trip to somewhere interesting and so much more.
All of those things pale in comparison to the impending end of the world.
Hate to break it to you bud. The world isn’t ending. It’s going to still be here. Humanity is going to still be here. We’re going to survive the worst of it and continue going. It’ll get real hard but at no point are we looking at the end of the world or of humanity. The stuff that’ll be really bad won’t be any time soon. Probably not in your lifetime. You can go ahead and live your life and have fun.
The world isn’t ending.
As far as our civilization is concerned, it is. Global warming will cause desperate wars over rapidly dwindling resources like food and inhabitable land, and desperate people with a nuclear arsenal and nothing to lose will be intensely tempted to launch their nukes. Sooner or later, someone will, and then humanity as we know it will be gone. Only scattered groups of survivors and rich people in bunkers will remain after that.
It’ll get real hard
That’s quite an understatement…
The stuff that’ll be really bad won’t be any time soon. Probably not in your lifetime.
It was 115°F in Portland, Oregon a couple of years ago. That is an absurd, beyond-the-pale temperature for this part of the world. Global warming isn’t some distant threat for future generations to worry about; it’s here and now.
You can go ahead and live your life and have fun.
I’m already not having fun. Cost of living is skyrocketing. I’ll be lucky to still have a roof over my head in a few years. And that’s assuming global warming stops right now and doesn’t make the situation any worse, which is of course a blatantly unrealistic assumption.
No, they are just smaller in scope, as in they are more on a personal level. For me, I value that much more. And not to discredit the concern (we should be), but doomerism has never amounted to anything.
Take heart. America, like all developed nations, can’t live without immigrants to counteract its declining birth rate. If you live in fear that all immigrants will be expunged, you can relax.
Meanwhile women have already been targeted and shot at and hit because one of the last elections didn’t go well. Gay and trans people are being erased from places like a Florida and Texas right now.
Turn that anxiety into volunteer hours registering voters, or helping women access critical healthcare.
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And yet I’d be good if my electric bill wasn’t $350
Mine was the same. It’s amazing how much it costs to keep a small house at a livable temperature when it’s blazing hot outside
House? HOUSE!!! I’m in a 1 bedroom apartment!!!
There must be something really wrong then, like no insulation at all, or improper grounding. $350/mo for one bedroom apartment electric bill is insane.
Last time I was in a studio apartment it was like $70/mo. In a 3 bedroom house I’m in right now it’s around $120-150/mo currently.
10.9 cents supply, 16.9 cents delivery. A very old air conditioner running constantly during a 2 week heat wave. Also I work from home.
Idk if it helps but a friend of mine has similar problems with depression because of the world going to shit. (Even though here problems aren’t so severe). I once showed her the Solarpunk genre/Movement and it worked (at least a bit). It let a bit of sunlight and hope in her heart and she has fallen directly in love with it in the same way I did. So maybe it helps a bit looking into it and get a bit of a hope boost.
I spoke about suicide in the venting sub and got permabanned from all of reddit for “advocating violence” Yeah.
Re-write, please let me know if I misunderstood:
I spoke about suicide in the venting sub and got permabanned from all of reddit for “advocating violence”.
Exactly, it really shows that English is my second language haha
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I edited my comment, the original one made people suppose I was banned because I actually incited violence
As a general recommendation, don’t delete edited content,
cross it overso that people can see the original and follow the thought trail while also clearly pointing that you are changing the comment. You can do it like this%~~cross it over~~Not many people do, but I still think that it’s considerate for future readers.
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huh
I feel like this needs context.
In a way it’s understandable, people who are drawn to this community might be quite vulnerable to mention of suicide. Then again, some of them may need a space to discuss their suicidal thoughts. There’s no easy answer to this problem. Blurr suicide related posts in feeds maybe? Not ideal still.
I agree, and while I’m not in a position to run a community myself, it would be really great to have spaces here like r/PsychotherapyLeftists and r/MutualSupport where there is a supportive community with an understanding of how oppression and the world becoming more dystopic every day impacts our mental health
Meanwhile, and I hate to link to reddit (plus the site crashes every time I open it) but these resources might be helpful:
https://www.reddit.com/r/PsychotherapyLeftists/comments/ix7zuh/how_do_i_find_a_leftist_therapist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/MutualSupport/comments/bw6mcu/very_important_resources_and_information_for/Do you think that would actually improve anyone’s mental health? Seems like it would become an echo chamber of complaint where absolutely everything in the world, including running out of toilet paper, is a classist plot to take away your humanity.
“We’re always here for you”
Well, they’re not wrong, they just do they best to make the “always” part very short.
ADHD cover of “Always on my Mind”
“You are always on my m- man I’m hungry. Are there any potato chips in the cupboard?”
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I mean, Lemmy has the exact same potential for issues with admins and mods - the key difference being that if those issues happen you can just up and off to another instance without having to abandon Lemmy altogether.
More importantly, you could have an instance that’s specifically tailored to a purpose. Like a mental health non profit could create an instance with expert guidance and instance wide rules for mental health communities.
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OP said could for a reason.
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retarded moderators
Yeah let’s not pretend it’s just the mods.
a great start would be not using slurs <3
Hmm doesn’t the Lemmy backend software itself censor certain slurs automatically written by users? Not that people won’t find a way around it.
Expand (contains slurs)
I have declared the word “slur” to now be a slur. You are now not allowed to say s***. Otherwise I will be TRIGGERED.
Don’t be retarded.
Mods will be mods.
The difference is that instances have self determination. On Reddit all subreddits have to operate under the umbrella of Reddit whether it’s good for them or not. Here communities can go to an instance they’re aligned with. For example there’s a very popular German instance that has all the topics in German for a German audience. In the case of mental health, the ideal situation is thata non profit with expert guidance could create their own instance with communities lead by people who actually know what they’re doing. On Reddit there’s only one sub that can have a name whereas on lemmy you could have a bunch of mental health communities under someinstitute.org or something.
The moderators certainly were removed
Yeah I noticed this immediately. I think the mods here are on average worse than reddit even
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