• CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de
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    Now try finding someone you find attractive and who also finds you attractive in return (it’s impossible).

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      I did a calculation once about my chances of finding a compatible long-term partner, inspired by the Drake Equation and using many many assumptions. The numbers are not good: ~22 out of 8 billion.

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        As a married man, I gotta say you’re probably selling yourself short or have unrealistic expectations of a partner.

        Remember that whoever you’re going to date is a person, not a robot. People are not quantifiable. One day they may be a dick, the next they may be pleasant. Some people are willing to compromise and others aren’t. Man, woman, or other, it doesn’t matter. If you’re not willing to compromise something, you’re never going to find someone.

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          I like reminding my single friends that 73% of Americans are considered overweight. 41% are obese.

          A shocking amount of my male friends are overweight or obese and refuse to date overweight women.

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            We could all lose a few pounds but sharing a meal is a huge thing, take that thicc person out and enjoy meal with another human being you animals. You might even find you have some commonality and you’ll feel slightly less isolated when the meal is done.

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        That seems absurdly low. Are you sure that all of your criteria are non-negotiable? And entirely uncorrelated?

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          Look I wasn’t completely serious about it, there’s no way to actually calculate something like that.
          For example what’s the fraction of people that find me attractive. It could range from 0.05 to 0.5. I have no way of knowing.

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        I only need to make 1 assumption to solve that equation for me

        0% of people would find me attractive

        QE fucking D

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    I feel like this meme was made by a gen z kid that grew up with filtered pictures being normal

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      I’m gen z but my problem is mostly that I tend to be attracted to my friends more… Which kinda limits the pool. Whoops.

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          True, so far it hasn’t really worked out though. And it also makes it much harder to get over someone. In the end I’ll probably find someone but with a lot of hurt along the way before I do, I imagine.

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    Over the years of talking with my wife about who we find attractive, she has realized I find almost all women attractive in some ways and normally the ones that are supposed to be attractive i find less attractive. She hated this realization because she applied it to herself, and it made her feel bad… I just find the good in most people, that’s all!

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      There’s a coworker of mine that when the topic arises and he gets asked what is his preference (in terms of the types of women he likes) his response is “women” 😂

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        he likes: big girls, pretty kitty girls, really witty girls, singin’ ditty girls; he likes the leggy girls with the nice thighs; he likes a good chest no matter what size; he likes the belly folds, he likes the sixpacks, really tall queens, and the shortstacks, from the mild girls to the wild girls…

        yea

        he likes girls

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    Idk i find like 80% of women i know attractive, its just that i have such confidence problems i dont ask anybody out.

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    The upper one depicts the guys around me. I can go through the lower one, but the result is usually this.

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    If you like each other and you share most values, there is your partner. If your partner is good looking as well; great for you guys!

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    you, standing on a cliff overlooking the horizon, and ten billion light-years away there is a point you will never, ever be physically capable of reaching because the very expansion of the cosmic medium itself will move it further away from you than it already is now even if you traveled in that direction at the speed of light for ten billion years.

    caption: finding a girl who finds YOU attractive