Velma

I honestly just searched for it because I have never heard the term polysexual applied in this way. I also wasn’t trying to imply that polyamorous people engage in one night stands and casual sex, either, but you read into that as well.

I’m bisexual, I’ve been involved in the kink, poly, and LGBT+ community in my area for a long time. I wasn’t trying to “no homo” anything, I just prefer using the term monogamish to describe my current relationship because that describes it really well:

First coined by legendary sex columnist Dan Savage, “monogamish” refers to a relationship style wherein mostly monogamous couples choose to have extra-relational sexual experiences, often sparingly and with strict boundaries that only allow for non-monogamous activity under very specific circumstances.

polysexual

Polysexual individuals are those who are attracted to people of multiple genders. Notably, the prefix “poly” means many.

People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero- and homosexual. Each person will have their own specific preferences when it comes to who they are attracted to.

Isn’t that an attraction to all genders? Why are you so hellbent on defining my relationship boundaries?

I don’t think our situation falls into poly-sexual since it’s usually one night stand type of situations though.

Monogamish fits my relationship and it’s been a term in use for decades at this point.

You’re right but it’s also dependent on your doctor, your symptoms, and where you live. Please don’t discourage others from seeking out treatment for this because it might be difficult to get insurance to cover it.

I’ve had a lot of success on feeld, both as a unicorn AND a unicorn “hunter”.

Damn, deep fried snickers sounds so good!

Hah while I’ve been lucky enough to have had drinks at the Unicorn, I didn’t pick anyone up there! Mostly have met people through Feeld or friends of friends tbh.

Yeah pretty much! Monogamish is just a fun word to describe being mostly monogamous with a little bit of extra sex lol

There’s a lot of different relationship types out there. It’s not the same as saying I’m a vegan except when I eat meat. That’s like saying pescatarians are the same as vegans which are the same as meat eaters.

I’ve been in plenty of relationship models - poly, swingers, group sex, etc. There’s distinct differences that should be respected in each.

But we’re not poly. We don’t nurture relationships with other people. We’re just open to having sex with others on occasion.

Dan Savage originally came up with the term “monogamish”:

“Monogamish” is a relationship model coined by sex columnist Dan Savage to describe couples who are 90–95% monogamous but allow for occasional, agreed-upon outside sexual experiences.

Of course they did. They’re proud of their rapists there.

Hopefully more women will join lemmy. It’s quite the cesspool in here.

Haaaaaahahahaha

Do you?

Neither are you.

Putting themselves in harm’s way to try to protect their neighbors is performative to you?

Thanks for confirming I can easily ignore what you say.

Yeah all those people coming out in droves to help protect their neighbors don’t have each other’s backs.

Reddit has women now. Ftfy

Not within my relationship, no. We talked about our boundaries and we’re both ok with the other having onlyfans accounts and such.

But we also are monogamish - we regularly invite thirds into our sex life and are more open than a strictly monogamous couple would be.

That’s interesting that experiences can vary so widely here. People are way more rude here, I’ve found. And way more sexist. Or at least more sexist on the surface. At least on Reddit you’d have to seek out incel communities to see the more depraved views about women.

Had a friend die of colon cancer at age 41. She left behind three beautiful children and a loving husband. Absolute tragedy.

Get your preventative doctors appointments done, folks. The world isn’t ready to see you go to cancer so young <3