A bit of a hot take… bigger communities tend to get harder to please, regardless of anything else

I saw a few gacha game communities (please don’t judge me lol) grow in real time, because gacha games need as large as a player base as possible for their business strategy (which is a separate topic)… Saw the level of toxicity rises in real time as my main game’s community get bigger. Like the community literally went from being okay with just about anything to arguing over the weirdest details on character designs and complaining about every live-service event. And then there’s all the rumor about communities of Hoyoverse games… including once when someone almost murdered the company CEO over a bunny girl event (I’m not making this up)

Among similar sized ones I’m not entirely sure

I assume you mean ppl who literally have “mathematician” as a job title? A few I could think of…

• I’d guess most likely as an academic researcher. There are academics in just about any field you could imagine, a lot of which are even more abstract/“useless” than advanced math. Not a traditional “job” in the sense that academics don’t directly add value to the economy… but are paid to do research that hopefully other people can add value based on. Downside is that these job openings are insanely competitive especially for the aforementioned “less useful” fields, because they are based on an organization having spare money to support research…
• As a cybersecurity researcher maybe? A lot of modern-day cybersecurity (the original “crypto”, before it became associated with bitcoin) are based on advanced math, so I’d imagine such expertise is still needed
• Somewhere in finance maybe? A lot of modern-day finance are built on data science/statistics, although I suppose this job fits statisticians better…

Disclaimer: level 1 ASD, low support needs

Was it ableist for my ex-friend to say “[all] autistic people make her uncomfortable “?

… maybe? It is true that the majority of Autistic people (including those with subtle symptoms, maybe especially those since uncanny valley and everything) tend to make NT people uncomfortable whether we like it or not, so just having that thought alone might not say much. I would assume most reasonable people would prefer to keep thoughts like that behind closed curtains even if they have those

As for your ex-friend’s specific case… I think the bigger issue is that your ex-friend was an asshole more than anything else. My understanding is that talking behind someone’s back is a big no for most people. There are… some parts of Asian culture where this type of behavior is more accepted, but if your ex-friend is American then I’m not entirely sure what’s wrong with them

That’s cool! For me Chinese (Mandarin), although it has something to do with language regulations: a lot of Chinese dialects really should be classified as different languages…

Speaking of that and Spanish… I was quite curious about Catalan actually, have a colleague that’s from that part of Spain. My understanding is that Catalan is considered a separate language but is quite similar to Spanish?

I have a pet rat that seems to be sick. My local vet has a long waitlist: do you have any suggestions on home remedies that can help them feel better in the meantime?

Speaking as an immigrant wannabe who personally investigated a lot on this… not ones that I’m aware of. At least I don’t know any countries that are both 1) what I’d imagine most Americans are willing to relocate to, and 2) have preferential or at least very “easy” paths for immigration for Americans. Maybe there are some for those with a “lucky” ancestry, but from my understanding that’s it

Netherlands technically “appreciates” American immigrants because of the DAFT, but that doesn’t really answer the question… NL isn’t that easy to move to, and from what I’ve heard a lot of people don’t end up making it on DAFT. Their job market is a bit screwed-up at the moment and they have a very significant housing shortage as well

Still, I think there are lots of countries that welcome aspiring immigrants who have in-demand skills (and some, with significant wealth), as long as one is willing to adapt to that particular new country/culture. If one is competent in a language that is not English that list grows even longer

I think there are lots of posts on this on r/AmerExit and r/IWantOut… lots of delusional posts, but a good bit of not-so-delusional ones too

Obligatory not an economist, only know some basics about investing (and quite lazy about it)

I always thought that gold is just a rather unique commodity that people can also have the option of holding physically (not that it’s advised to do so). Professional investors invest in just about anything as long as there is a potential return on investment, like typical stocks and bonds, gold and silver, housing/land, art, literal truckloads of food… frankly gold isn’t even remotely the weirdest or “scammiest” on this list

As for more regular people, I do have a suspicion a lot of con-artists and/or people with suspicious intents heavily promote gold investing though. Also some libertarian types have a weird… fantasy? of total societal collapse with them rising to the top post-collapse, which I do not quite understand. But I’d presume gold would be attractive to those types since gold has been used as a means of transaction for a long time in human history

I’ve been enjoying the payment app and personal information verification app in the country I moved to quite a bit. The only previous exposure I had to a centralized app-based payment and/or verification system was China’s WeChat, so I had quite a bit of negative stereotypes with them… but I’m liking these a lot

For additional information: the two are separate apps. Both are private companies (I think?) heavily regulated by and strongly promoted by the EU I believe, and the latter is the de-factor verification system that is used for governmental stuff as well

My personal upvote border:

• This is the best thing I’ve seen today
• Someone made a post/comment made in good faith that adds value to the community
• Someone replied to me in good faith, as far as I can tell

Neutral (no up/down-vote) border:

• Someone made a post/comment that I didn’t think much about
• Someone replied to me, but was not in good faith and/or seem factually dubious

Downvote border (I rarely do that):

• Someone made a post/comment that is factually wrong
• Someone seems to be trolling, making an agenda, or doing something else nefarious

I think maybe because of the lack of a meaningful “karma” system, people on the fediverse seem to be much more upvote-happy… less so than the beans era, but still a lot more upvote-happy than just about any Reddit community I still follow

From personal experience. I am willing to assign a higher value to products made by local and/or small businesses, even if it doesn’t otherwise make any practical sense. But it is a very conscientious moral judgement on my end, so I don’t expect most people to behave this way… and I have a limit too, +100% is probably too much.

Although I guess the benefit of being a “small” business is that you also don’t need as many customers… There are also some types of small businesses that are competitive: I suppose most ethnic food stores or your local market stall won’t struggle with competing on price.

how is it that there are any little shops left at all?

Maybe this depends on the area? I don’t know if it is just me, but it seems to me that these days small businesses do better in larger cities… maybe larger cities have more “ethical shoppers”

Random ham sandwich offered via a seminar at work, no idea of the exact ingredients… served with Coke-zero on the side. This happened yesterday

Nothing, I don’t exactly need anything at the moment. In fact I almost forgot Black Friday existed…

I think I care more than I should. But then most people didn’t have their childhood shaped mostly by rhythm games so…

I have a very specific taste for music, and on top of that I basically don’t listen to anything lower than a subjective 8 out of 10 in my books. Also some meme songs are timeless masterpieces (no I’m not giving examples)

• Not really. I care much more about the melody than the sound effects, and unfortunately my ears aren’t sensitive enough to tell much of the difference
• I have very specific music that I listen to. At the very least it has to be a well-curated playlist, random playlist is a hard no for me
• Actually I mostly listen to music just to enjoy it… I used to listen to music on long roadtrips but I don’t do those anymore
• No, but it’s because there’s no one to talk to. One of the downsides of only liking “alternative music” I suppose
• Sometimes; there aren’t that many artists making things I enjoy in the first place

Music is leaning much more towards art for me

The first part is just an alias and doesn’t really have an interesting story

The second part is the airport code of the city I lived in when this account was created. I was actually quite curious if anyone could have guessed that without me saying it out loud

For search engine: I’m self hosting SearXNG so I’m already indirectly paying via domain registry/VPS? So yes. Technically this can be done for free though (local docker, random RasPi laying around, …)

For email: paid (mailbox.org), worth it. Selfhosting email was too much of a headache at least for me

Moved from a mega metropolis and got shuffled around a lot

Might be an oddity here but… I basically missed nothing. I grew up pretty sheltered, and on top of that my hometown didn’t really have much going for it despite its size. Probably the only redeeming quality is the high-quality public transit… which isn’t remotely as good as it seems if you actually live there

I think now that I’ve grown up & have more defined interests, my hometown is starting to feel a bit more exciting since there are all kinds of hobby groups & such… But still feels mostly soulless to me IMO

Fluent in three languages. Mathematically speaking, there are enough people with my specific migration route (or even language combination) up until the point I left the US that there should be lots of ppl who think the same… But yes I do feel like my PoV can be a bit unique

The various forms of neurodivergence I have certainly don’t help… like for example I don’t have an internal monologue, which changes my PoV a lot. Actually the neurodivergence probably shaped my PoV even more than the languages; I never really fit in even at where I was born

If esports count, I’d like to be like this guy and get a contract to play rhythm games professionally

Otherwise… Probably swimming or race walking, not too many professional sports I could think of that one can do into their 60s without wrecking their body

Not personally, but my parents would pay much, much more for cooking utensils than what “it’s worth”. They live in China, and I don’t think the locals (especially their generation) trust Chinese manufacturing that much… so for anything food- or health-related my parents would just get stuff from say Japan, the US, or the EU. Quite sure mom side still insists on buying kitchen knives from Zwilling whenever she’s traveling

I guess this is becoming more relevant now that Temu is a thing

Brussels. Officially bilingual but most people speak French; English is commonly spoken but not official. I’m also legally allowed to get things in Dutch (the other official language) but I know even less Dutch than French… I promised myself to start learning Dutch once I get to B1-B2 French

Due to historical reasons, language is… a sensitive issue here. And since I work in academia (which were at the center of said language issue), my employer communicates everything in French, despite the fact that academia itself uses English (probably funnier at the Dutch-speaking unis but I digress). For example I think half of the HR and IT teams don’t speak English at all so all my work emails to them have to be in French…