• Cock_Inspecting_Asexual@lemmy.world
    4·
    4 days ago

    I do, cus then people call me obnoxious or say I’m showing off but I’m not, I JUST WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE POTENTIAL PSYCHOLOGICAL BENEFITS OF PEOPLE WITH SEVERE ADHD AND ALCOHOL 😭😭😭

    I can’t ever have a normal conversation with someone. It has to be some random shit I hyper-fixated on just enough to write a research paper on for no fucking reason. Like why humans have such pungent body order despite us not having advanced enough Olfactory Senses to not “read” scents or pheromones the same way dogs or cats can.

  • pleasestopasking@reddthat.com
    24·
    6 days ago

    No…?

    I mean I’m not a genius or anything but I know some things about some things. When I can help someone with those things or just shoot the shit about cool things I know, it makes me feel good.

    • rasbora@lemm.ee
      2·
      6 days ago

      There are always more things that you don’t know than there are things that you do know.

  • Geometrinen_Gepardi@sopuli.xyz
    13·
    6 days ago

    There’s nothing wrong with knowing about things. If I’m deciphering your question correctly, you need to learn to keep your mouth shut. People won’t pester you then.

    • Like the wind...@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
      44·
      6 days ago

      Even if I don’t say anything, I still feel bad for knowing, and extra bad for not helping the person out, but I’d feel worse if I did.

      • Guidy@lemmy.world
        81·
        6 days ago

        Then you should talk to a professional until you feel differently. This is not normal. Being smart is good. Being curious is good. Being a lifelong learner is ideal. Whoever or whatever taught or showed you otherwise is wrong.

      • folekaule@lemmy.world
        2·
        6 days ago

        Try to come across friendly without sounding condescending.

        First, empathize (I know those things can be tricky, it took me a minute the first time), then offer to help without judgement (I have some experience with these, would you like me to try?), then back off if they say no.

        If they refuse help, you’ve done what you can, end of story. Don’t be pushy.

        Key point here is to be nice about it. Don’t call them out or make them feel dumb. Don’t judge. You don’t know why they’re not getting it, and next time maybe it is you who is “dumb”.

        Also, don’t expect everyone to share your intellect (it’s obvious to you) or curiosity (you want to know how it works). Most people just want their problem fixed and move on.

  • Em Adespoton@lemmy.ca
    9·
    6 days ago

    Knowing stuff can be a curse, especially when you’re 10 steps ahead of everyone else in the room and you know they’re just going to need the time to figure it out on their own.

    But being smart means you know how and when to apply your knowledge. So you can provide the information when it’s actually useful and not when it just gets blank stares.

    And knowing stuff but NOT talking about it all the time, and not using “told you so” means that when you DO speak, anyone who matters will listen and take you seriously.

    I find that slipping useful knowledge into self-deprecating jokes is a useful way to get people to listen to it.

  • AdamBomb@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    6·
    6 days ago

    What? No. No, dawg, no. Ignorance isn’t a virtue. Knowledge and expertise are something to be proud of.

  • Swordgeek@lemmy.ca
    5·
    6 days ago

    Nope.

    For context, I’m in my late 50s and always want to know the right answer, and share it with everyone.

    Buy sometimes, you need to let it go. You might be in a situation where someone is confidently stating something you know to be wrong. Correcting them can - depending on context - come across as insulting and know-it-all; and if it’s not important, maybe stay silent this time.

    Now if you’re in a situation where the truth IS important, or where everyone is more interested in the truth (or even debate) than something cool but false, your knowledge will be appreciated.

    You don’t have to always have the last word, even if it’s right.

  • slazer2au@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    6 days ago

    I am a networking specialist on a team of sysadmins at an MSP. I don’t like being the “smart” one when it comes to networking because it means I have no one I can bounce ideas off.

  • over_clox@lemmy.world
    5·
    6 days ago

    I hate that I happen to have the reputation of a tech nerd, only to get basically 2 different sorts of requests, both of which I rightfully refuse to touch…

    • Can you unlock this stolen phone?
    • Can you fix my 72 inch TV? The kids broke the screen.
  • LuxSpark@lemmy.cafeEnglish
    51·
    6 days ago

    Yes! It’s such a burden knowing how things work and what will happen. People looking at you like “who’s this nerd with the answers?”