Original question by @SourGrapez@piefed.social
I’ve been with a lady for two years and recently started dating her new boyfriend. We all consented to the relationship and so far, it’s going good. I’ve also heard from some people though who used to date many people that it didn’t work out so they decided to date monogamously.
If I start dating someone and they never mention that they’re poly, I just assume they aren’t and keep the relationship monogamous. I don’t really like it when it’s opened up, either. It’s hard to tell if someone agrees just because they like me or if they actually want to open it up.
That being said, if someone cheats on me in a monogamous relationship, I’m mostly pissed because I would have said it was fine if I had known that’s what they wanted. That being said, it goes both ways so they would also have to understand that me being okay with them being with other people means I can be too. My first poly relationship was with an ex who only opened the relationship up for herself and got pissed off if I even jokingly kissed my friends.