𞋴𝛂𝛋𝛆@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.worldEnglish · 11 days agoDo you have self empathy?message-squaremessage-square29fedilinkarrow-up124arrow-down12file-text
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minus-squareEnsignWashout@startrek.websitelinkfedilinkarrow-up10arrow-down1·10 days agoLots of folks replying don’t seem believe in self empathy. That makes me sad. Self empathy is the foundation of empathy toward others. The golden rule - treat others as I want to be treated - only really became effective, for my friends, after I learned to treat myself well.
minus-squareEnsignWashout@startrek.websitelinkfedilinkarrow-up2·10 days agoWell said. Particularly out of a distaste for a harsh and cruel world I want to respond (with agreement) to: treat others as you want to be treated," is, indeed silly. It’s meant as an overly simple default to grow from. Treat others as they ask to be treated is much better. But I do believe that both benefit from an intentional practice of self-empathy.
minus-squaremacaw_dean_settle@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up1arrow-down2·10 days agoThe golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? What if I like physical abuse because it gets me off? Does that mean I should treat others this way?
minus-squareEnsignWashout@startrek.websitelinkfedilinkarrow-up1·10 days ago The golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? Agreed. But it is a good default place to we start. The real skill is empathy - to understand how the other person wants to be treated. My empathy for others became much more effective after I started practicing empathy for myself. It was a bit eye opening, to me, to realize how much impact a practice of self-empathy made in my relationships.
Lots of folks replying don’t seem believe in self empathy.
That makes me sad.
Self empathy is the foundation of empathy toward others.
The golden rule - treat others as I want to be treated - only really became effective, for my friends, after I learned to treat myself well.
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Well said. Particularly
I want to respond (with agreement) to:
Treat others as they ask to be treated is much better.
But I do believe that both benefit from an intentional practice of self-empathy.
The golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? What if I like physical abuse because it gets me off? Does that mean I should treat others this way?
Agreed. But it is a good default place to we start.
The real skill is empathy - to understand how the other person wants to be treated.
My empathy for others became much more effective after I started practicing empathy for myself.
It was a bit eye opening, to me, to realize how much impact a practice of self-empathy made in my relationships.