Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?

Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?

For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.

  • Libb@piefed.socialEnglish
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    5 days ago

    It depends the expectations, aka how those 2 hypothetical persons are used to communicate together. Any change in said habits may trigger questions but that is still very subjective and, to me at least, it also seems to be a little bit too emotional in that theoretical example you briefly described.

    Imho, a better reaction would be

    1. to wait (its not a matter of life an death, right? And if it was one better be contacting a doctor or the police)
    2. to ask the other if there is anything wrong going on and, if so, if there is anything one could do to help them. Instead of instantly jumping to any conclusion regarding their real secret motivations for not immediately answering a message… that more often than not is probably not that important to begin with.

    If that helps you worry a little less: I may spend days before replying any message. It may be weeks or more than that, before I reply some emails. And btw, that’s true for those odd people that, somehow are still willing to exchange with me despite me apparently being so rude with them: they’re treating me as rudely as I am. Save that we don’t call that being rude, we call that being ok with not being the center of the other’s life because, well, we are not ;)

    Also, it’s ok to not stay 'friends’ forever. Things and people change and so will their interests. We all can change.

    Edit: rephrasing

    • Passerby6497@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      5 days ago

      to wait (its not a matter of life an death, right? And if it was one better be contacting a doctor or the police)

      I had a friend person I knew who ghosted my wife and I randomly and she stopped showing up to the job they shared (that my wife helped her get). She regularly rode around town and had been clipped by cars more than once, so we were really concerned. After getting no response for weeks, and checking her place multiple times with no response, we did a wellness check. She was fine. I tried to get a few things back since we weren’t going to be friends anymore.

      You know what that crazy bitch did in response? Filed a restraining order against me with no additional communication. Made up a whole host of accusations of stalking and spying and shit. Thankfully, once I provided the screenshots of my call and chat history, the judge saw through her lies and dismissed the charge entirely. I’ve only ever seen her once or twice since then, and I made sure to turn around immediately because the last thing I wanted was for her psycho ass to have an opportunity to fabricate more lies against me.

      TL;Dr - police wellness checks aren’t super great when you’ve been ghosted