• ryven@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    8 days ago

    This doesn’t jive with my life experience at all. If my family could have “programmed” me, I would have turned out very differently. Also all my siblings are wildly different people.

    The development of living beings is a messy process and there are significant uncontrollable elements.

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      7 days ago

      Sure but neglected child is always going to turn out worse than one that was properly loved and taken care of. You can’t just go oh well child psychology is complicated, so let’s just ignore the parents responsibilities.

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      8 days ago

      Is leaving your gun lying around where a 6 year old can acquire and use it to shoot someone one of those sinifificant uncontrollable elements?

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        8 days ago

        No, because the existence of some uncontrollable elements doesn’t erase all the controllable elements.

        This woman did something very wrong and controllable, which is why she’s in prison.

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      8 days ago

      Nothing fits into a perfect box, but if you breed you are responsible for the outcome until 18 regardless. If you think your kid might shoot someone… it’s your job to prevent that.

      Not everyone is qualified to be a parent.

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        7 days ago

        A six year old is very unlikely to fully grasp what they are doing, and a parent wouldn’t necessarily “think their kid might shoot someone”.

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          7 days ago

          Yes I agree. However, a six-year-old child does not randomly get the idea to take a gun to school and shoot a teacher. They get it from somewhere. They may not fully understand, but that doesn’t matter. I’m just happy that parent is in jail. I hope they do not get released early, and I hope they do not ever get to be that child guardian again

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        8 days ago

        Nobody knows how parenthood will turn out, my friend. Nobody is qualified to decide who is qualified… Good.

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          7 days ago

          I agree. And if it ends up that you weren’t qualified, that might be a jail sentence. Good.

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      8 days ago

      I guess it depends on the household. I could say my mom did a great job at educating us. My siblings, mom, and I hold very similar values.