Edit: ‘Chase’ in this phrase is not meant to be taken literally.
For some extra information on the quote: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202504/the-psychology-of-dont-chase-attract
Edit: ‘Chase’ in this phrase is not meant to be taken literally.
For some extra information on the quote: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202504/the-psychology-of-dont-chase-attract
Well in my case, there is this girl I like. I am not much of a flirt and even then I don’t really think flirting would work. So I’m just going to try to Attract rather then Chase in that sense.
Ask her to something casual just the two of you. Like “let’s grab lunch” and see where that takes you.
You need to attract by being a well rounded person that does not neeeed someone, but you also need to make it obvious to your crush that you are interested.
Spending too much time acting cool and hoping that they will fall for you will fail when the next person is just honest about their feelings with the crush.
How will her knowing I like her make her feel differently?? That doesn’t make sense to me. I’m still me, I am not doing anything differently, I am still as “attractive” as I was before telling her. So I don’t see how it matters.
Edit: Granted, eventually I’ll have to tell her but that’s after hanging out a couple of times and she’s shown signs of liking me back
Just be yourself. There must be something about her beyond being a girl that you find interesting. Don’t flirt, just be friendly, and if there’s a common bond it might go somewhere. Or not. But if you don’t do something and she doesn’t, then neither will know. This is coming from a heavy introvert who avoids people in general. It’s hard to get past that first step, but once you do (and you don’t force something to happen) it gets easier, and the relationship usually builds from the point where both are more relaxed and… being themselves.
Makes sense.