• IronBird@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    seriously, attract don’t chase is how you stay alone.

    love is the most common resource on earth, for anyone even remotely healthy/attractive as a partner. repeated exposure, common interests/experiences to bond over, and a willingness to learn/grow is all you need to fall for anyone.

    pursue, but just take rejection like an adult. no means no etc. first couple times sting but it gets easier with time/practice

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        26 minutes ago

        …persue/chase em… nobody will know your interested in them unless you make some effort to show that interest, humans can’t read minds.

        so approach with light flirting, presumably around whatever attracted you to them in the first place. then ask out to neutral/low-commitment social event, like a concert or something.