I also was referring to child abuse and other childhood trauma. It can take many forms but all of them leave deep emotional scarres that don’t necessarily heal.
I think child abuse specifically tends to run along family lines. You grow up being abused and then abuse your children.
The problem is that it really hard not to be like your parents. Kids learn by mirroring the behavior of adults and if the adults are poorly behaved it has a massive impact.
It is hard to know how to be loving if you were never loved
it’s not hard if you understand your parents are idiots who make bad choices and their not loving you or treating you well is also a product of their bad choices.
and then at some point you will have to take care of them and that will further make you realize how stupid they are/were.
I also was referring to child abuse and other childhood trauma. It can take many forms but all of them leave deep emotional scarres that don’t necessarily heal.
I think child abuse specifically tends to run along family lines. You grow up being abused and then abuse your children.
abuse is a choice. you can choose not to abuse people if you were abused.
true though, that most don’t and view their abuse as a justification for their abusing others.
The problem is that it really hard not to be like your parents. Kids learn by mirroring the behavior of adults and if the adults are poorly behaved it has a massive impact.
It is hard to know how to be loving if you were never loved
it’s not hard if you understand your parents are idiots who make bad choices and their not loving you or treating you well is also a product of their bad choices.
and then at some point you will have to take care of them and that will further make you realize how stupid they are/were.