To add to this, it’s sunken cost fallacy at its strongest. They’re not just letting go of feeling angry. They’re letting go of their entire identity. Their identity IS hatred and suppression so to admit this is wrong is to admit every motive, decision and belief in their life up to this point is also wrong. People don’t want to believe they could have made that change years or even decades ago because the only one stopping them was themselves.
This is also why no argument or discussion thats contrary to their beliefs go anywhere. Their beliefs are their personality so they take it as a personal attack on them and immediately become defensive and shutdown.
To add to this, it’s sunken cost fallacy at its strongest. They’re not just letting go of feeling angry. They’re letting go of their entire identity. Their identity IS hatred and suppression so to admit this is wrong is to admit every motive, decision and belief in their life up to this point is also wrong. People don’t want to believe they could have made that change years or even decades ago because the only one stopping them was themselves.
This is also why no argument or discussion thats contrary to their beliefs go anywhere. Their beliefs are their personality so they take it as a personal attack on them and immediately become defensive and shutdown.