Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
Open marriage here:
Any time a hookup says they don’t use condoms, it’s a huge red flag. Always ask a partner in a neutral way about condoms to force them to the binary answer.
Example: would you like to use condoms? Do you use condoms? Do you bareback?
If they don’t answer straight, or say they prefer not to use them, move on. It’s really not worth the hassle of even curable STDs (pregnancy fits here), especially if you’re not on Prep. I would never bareback with a stranger without at least using Prep.