Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
I teach Sex Ed. - most STIs are asymptomatic most of the time, especially for those assigned male at birth. HPV for example can lead to cervical cancer and dude would never know he had it. So, do with that what you will but by his response alone I’d assume he isn’t wearing them as often as he can get away with it and you can hope all his sexual partners get tested regularly or you can be safe and protect your safety over his comfort.