Got lucky with a girl I met through a friend’s girlfriend that I am absolutely in love with but I couldn’t get it up when things got heated. Stayed over at hers but didn’t even get morning wood the day after, only semis over night. Also haven’t had a boner for 3 days now.

She’s actually texted me back more than once after the incident, so I think she might still be ok wil me, but I feel like I should apologise or something. I don’t want to force things but I also don’t want to lose her. Should I apologise?

Also I’ve looked at porn for like 13 years and was getting unwanted hard ons with no effort literally the same week this happened. And I tried looking at porn later (to check if it was porn brain) and my dick remained soft until I touched it (even then it wasn’t like like it nromally is). WTF? Could I have got ED literally the one time I was on the verge of getting laid? Safe to say, I will not be looking at porn again.

  • j4k3@lemmy.worldEnglish
    19·
    8 months ago

    As Wesker said, make it an exploration all about her and let it go wherever it goes. If you don’t get motivated for more, that is okay. Play it cool and don’t make a show of it. Take her to climax and then be whoever she needs in the moments after. If you do not take, only give, and never make it into a thing, you’ll be mysterious and interesting as a side effect. If you’re not into her, that will become clear in time.

    Also double up on an exercise routine where you do a short morning and afternoon activity that gets you sweaty at a minimum. That always helps me.

    • cinabongo@lemmy.worldOP
      5·
      8 months ago

      Thanks. I tried that but quickly realised I had no clue what I was doing and she seemed uncomfortable telling me. I’ll do more if I get lucky again.

      • Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
        4·
        8 months ago

        I’m assuming this is all new experiences for you, and if so, no one knows what they’re doing at first. You just gotta fool around, and pay attention to your partners’ body language.

        I’d say the greater majority of young women have a hard time communicating what they want in bed. It’s uncomfortable being that forthright, in such a vulnerable situation.

        So for better or worse, you often just gotta just pay attention and try new things, angles, rhythms until you see or hear you’re doing something that works for her.