US Funeral Director here, You should use the best more recent photo that you have. The purpose of the obituary photo is recognition by people who may not know the name.

If you want to have two photos, you could do a recent photo, and a prime photo, but the recent photo is more important. The prime photo only has significance to the family.

Oh, something I actually know something about as I was working with people choosing pictures for the gravestones and/or funerals…

There are no strict rules, but I always saw the tendency for going with voices of the family “he looks really handsome on this one”, “yeah, that’s her face, you know, she always looked like this during the fall, her favorite part of the year” and so on… This might not be helpful but the best one is the one representing the connection as much as possible.

I have this strong feeling after so many of those — sometimes very unpleasant — talks, that anyone that has to choose, already made that choice internally, they mostly just don’t want to make it officially, as it is making the loss and whole situation even more real.

It is mainly for everyone mourning, a form of expressing how they want and need to remember this person. I would go with the one that pulls the string inside “yeah, that’s them, that’s how I see them”… Most often, that picture was actually making people smile, cheer up, even if through the tears, that was the sign for me that we have the best one.

If it’s me go with whichever looks funnier.

put 1 of each:

some will remember them from their “prime”, others only knew them more-recently.

Your intent is to represent their life, right? Not just a moment in it.

We had this challenge with my grandmother. I had some really memorable moments with her late in her life, but she looked a lot sicker and run down in any pictures from that time, but that’s how I remember her (at least that’s part of how I remember her). My mom didn’t want to share as many pictures from that phase of her mom’s life though because she remembered her younger and more active, so it made putting a memories collage together complicated. Especially since all the early pictures were still in albums spread across the country with her children.

Personally I want people to use pictures of me that let them remember me the best. Not the best of me, but the best of our relationship, even if that’s me as an ugly old fart.

I think it should be recent, because that’s how the people who knew them would remember them.

Or both, if you have the space.

respectful

That is not a question of respect, but of quality.

You and the other survivors want to keep the deceased in good memory. Usually the best pictures are about a year old. Maybe 1/2, maybe 2 or 3 years, but hardly more. Not the pictures from the very last days, because there is sickness/weakness already too visible.

Why have one picture, make a collage of photos all throughout their life.

just noting that people have started putting QR codes on tombstones that direct to a collection/directory of multimedia photos videos audio, notes etc. i think its a great use.

What’s the photo for? You can display multiple photos at a funeral. If you’re publishing it, probably go with them in their prime

use the ones that look “most like them” in your opinion

Choose the best current photo you have for the primary photo and obit. Consider also making a collage of photos from through their life.

Wikipedia uses photos in their prime. I think it’s fine if they look healthy.

If it was me I’d prefer the best photo from my life.

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