• MudMan@fedia.io
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    5 months ago

    Nah, I don’t mind small talk. Small talk is fine. It’s easy, you just smile a bit, and say hi and make a joke about whatever the other guy said.

    It’s the mid-size talk I can’t deal with. The kind of talk where the other person is just giving you clichés of normie chatter about politics you disagree with or car culture or reality shows and you’re supposed to just… keep providing valid responses and appear interested. I don’t see what’s small about that and it’s excruciating.

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      Nah, that’s great because you can so easily escalate to heavy talk. Disagree with the political opinion. Insist car culture is just pointless fashion fads. Dive into the morality of reality TV.

      Either they disengage and you’re free, or you get to have an actual meaningful debate instead of echoing hollow platitudes.

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        5 months ago

        While I definitely agree with this and encourage it, most often this happens at work. I got shit to do, I don’t have the time to debate politics with a random customer. Sometimes I’d love to, and some rare times I actually get to have a good long conversation with someone like that, but 99% of the time I really want you to just shut up so I can keep it moving. No matter how much I want to tell someone that Game of Thrones was a genuinely good show for 80% of its runtime, or that Joe Biden isn’t the literal devil.

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    5 months ago

    People are always really surprised whenever I give a presentation or something. I can actually be quite eloquent. I just choose not to be, most of the time.

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      5 months ago

      Fucking seriously. I literally have 2 good friends and I don’t go looking to add more because conversation is exhausting.

      I have two modes of talking: complaining and explaining something. Sometimes those are both the same lol

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        5 months ago

        I have two modes of talking: complaining and explaining something. Sometimes those are both the same lol

        Holy shit this is perfect and beautiful. Cheers

      • DaBabyAteMaDingo@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        90% of my voice messages to my partner are literally that. The other 10% is about cats I happen to come across.

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      5 months ago

      Likewise.

      I just enjoy being alone a lot. Not lonely; alone. I love being alone, or at the very least left alone. Makes me feel relaxed and peaceful. I barely have enough to give one person, let alone a whole bunch of them.

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    5 months ago

    I honestly don’t think there’s any binary introvert/extrovert trait, and that lots of people combine different traits of introversion and extroversion.

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        5 months ago

        I can get behind it as a broad way of classifying personalities, but when people treat it as a whole package deal of different traits it just feels like horoscopes to me.

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    5 months ago

    By this definition I’d be closer to an introvert, but compared to my wife I’m extrovert as fuck. Would definitely say there is no hard rule.