• disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I don’t understand why some people get so bent out of shape over the term cisgender. Latin prefixes are even more common in English than abbreviations like AMAB.

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      The reasoning is simple: it’s just straight up transphobia. The term “cis” is just a neutral descriptor to pair with “trans” with no implication of being right or wrong. They’re mad at the existence of a term for the majority that doesn’t imply an insult to the minority.

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        4 months ago

        Thanks. Another commenter pointed that out. They’re not really taking offense to the term so much as objecting to the concept of genders differing from biological sex. It’s awful.

        There’s no reason to challenge the term otherwise. Cis is Latin for “on this side of” and trans is “across, beyond, or on the other side.” There’s really nothing objectionable about either prefix.

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      As someone who used to think it was an offensive term, it’s likely ignorance and because it’s often used in a deragatory and dehumanizing way on the internet.

      At first I didn’t know what cisgendered or cis meant, but I definitely saw it used to describe a group of people non-cis folks didn’t like very much. Of course I eventually learned, but still had a bit of a distaste due to the initial impression.

      Also, I always saw “cishet” as a cheeky way of saying “cis shit” because it was also often used negatively in the places I originally came across the term. Once someone explained it in a comment section I finally understood it wasn’t hateful terminology but instead descriptive.

      You can’t stop someone from being negative but at least knowing what the words are meant to mean can help identify a bad person rather than bad word.

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        4 months ago

        Interesting. I didn’t have that experience myself, but I’ve definitely seen those types of comments. I absolutely understand how that could leave a bad impression. I’ll be more mindful of educational opportunities when having discussions about it in the future. Exposure and understanding are the enemies of bigotry.

        Thanks for the insight!

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        4 months ago

        Where were you seeing this online? (How much can I blame cursed social media algorithms feeding you bullshit?)

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          Reddit was where I came across that the most. I don’t use much social media so my exposure is relatively small.

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            Interesting. I don’t use social media much either (hence why it’s taken me days to see and respond here lol) but I’ve just never seen it. Not that I don’t believe you. Shit happens

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        Bigots often have a problem with being accurately described because gaslighting is part of the strategy. Useful ignorants provide cover.

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          Look, I’ve never been anti-gay or anti-trans, but this kind of attitude isn’t winning over the people who are in the middle.

          I’m talking about generalizing and stereotyping type statements that, even if you aren’t homo/transphobic, feel like they’re targeted at you. When someone says, to give a hyperbolic example, “cisgendered white men are bigots”, they are not actually referring to all cis white men. But if you’re cis and white, you now know they assume you’re not a good person by default.

          Tribalism is never the way.

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        At first I didn’t know what cisgendered or cis meant, but I definitely saw it used to describe a group of people non-cis folks didn’t like very much. Of course I eventually learned, but still had a bit of a distaste due to the initial impression.

        How long was this “eventually”? I feel like it should be a couple minutes to search and land on the Wikipedia page.

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          Hmm maybe longer that it should have been, but do you really expect everyone to search for something instead of inferring the meaning based on context?

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              I’m gonna be real with you. I do the same shit. I don’t understand something? Well, I have a phone on me so unless it’s horribly complicated I’m about to understand it.

              We aren’t normal in that respect. Most people are happy with their ignorance, or at least that’s my observation so far.

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                We aren’t normal in that respect

                Given I got 5 down votes and no upvotes on the previous comment, you might be right.