• gsfraley@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I mean, I don’t think we should look to the past for mental stability. Alcoholism, violence, and spousal/domestic abuse are all examples of things that were way more common and borderline-accepted back then. I’d rather someone’s reaction to stress be a panic attack rather than beating their children.

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      2 months ago

      I think it’s more about acknowledging that a lot of people are hyperbolic so they can be perceived as a victim. Anxiety is a real thing but some people act like it’s the peak of human suffrage for attention, and that is worthy of laughing at, not the anxiety itself

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      “Pahshaw! Don’t listen to Sally over there, she’s just having her woman time. When we get home, I’ll give her a good knock about and she’ll remember herself. Now, where’s my paint thinner? I have a frightful thirst.”

  • SlopppyEngineer@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    That kind of stuff always reminds me of an episode from a show about rich people. They showed a rich mother organizing a birthday party for her toddler that was ridiculously fancy and having a complete meltdown because some napkins were another shade of pink. That’s the worst that life has ever given her, a different shade of napkins.

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      2 months ago

      My sister in law had a meltdown last thanksgiving that included screaming at her husband, and storming off to her bathroom to spend the rest of the day (up until food, and then she demanded someone bring her a specific selection on a plate) in a jacuzzi tub. The whole house reverberate when it’s on, it’s quite annoying.

      The absolutely soul-crushing, terrible, impossibly bad thing that happened?

      Her husband grabbed the wrong shade of blue curtains from the closet, and she had to wait an extra 90 seconds to put them up. Legitimately don’t understand how he’s stayed married to her for 15 years. Apparently she’s always been like this to him over the smallest bullshit.

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    2 months ago

    Right, and their unresolved ptsd lead to them not being the best parents which was part of a cycle that led to you.

  • Possibly linux@lemmy.zip
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    2 months ago

    I think the best option would be to get off of nicotine products. They aren’t exactly good for you.

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      2 months ago

      They aren’t exactly good for you.

      Or bad necessarily. From my understanding nicotine is similar to caffeine in that regard. The harm is in the other stuff you’re pumping into your lungs

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    Isn’t the idea that previous generations suffered so that future generations don’t have to? If my kids never have to know a life where their parents worked such long hours away from home that they became latch key kids, then society and I have done our jobs. Right?

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      Yea. But now our major towns and cities are getting much worse.

      Lots of countries seem to be going in reverse and have been in reverse for decades.

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    Ancestors: “We’re glad you can have a more peaceful future, where your great stress is cherry capes, not bombs in trenches.”

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      Well, we’re doing both so it’s okay.
      /s

      It IS really hard to understand what someone is going through if you’ve never been in that position yourself, and even then it’s hard.

      On the other hand: You never know when to attribute a behavior from someone to malice. And it’s also very easy to stop working on oneself when not pressured in doing so, especially for addicts.

      So yeah, a bit of banter is necessary.

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    As a guy who worked with military a bunch, they also have panic attacks when they forget their vape at home. Lmfao old philipino guy i worked with was a vet and threw a 2 day hissy fit because he lost his vape at home and only quit when he got a new one from the base commissary.

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    2 months ago

    It must be so weird for Drew (the guy from Giant Bomb in the meme) to browse the internet every day lol!

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    Uhhhh no. From someone who’s been mortared in the Hesco barriers, that’s not how that works. Stress stacks, and that was obviously the last straw. So what else is going on in their life? Do they have an anxiety condition that needs treatment? Do they deal with a boss that gaslights and threatens them? Did they have a car accident recently?

    Unless you know their life intimately you don’t judge.