(Don’t share your real name, obviously)

Okay so, wall of text warning:

My legal name is a Chinese name, three characters.

Family name (one character) is said/written first, then the given name (two characters for me… and I assume for most people).

Its a very interesting name, and overall naming system, each character has meaning, well other than the family name which I don’t think it really means anything.

My older brother’s first character is the same as mine, only the second character is different. (It’s [Family Name] + [Character A] + [Character B], Character A is the same.)

I have never met anyone with my exact name, well to be fair, being in the US made those odds even rarer. I did meet someone with the same family name in a US school, and they also had the same DoB as me, which was very weird coincidence.

But my name is so rare in the US, if it ever got leaked, that’s practically a unique identifier.

When I look at my name, idk I kinda feel a sense of antiquity. I have a genology book and the pages are falling apart, I had to scan it and made a .pdf from it. I mean those names are from hundred of years ago, I guess they had to keep remaking/rewriting those books because I doubt something from pre-1800s would’ve survived till now. It makes modern tech feel so futuristic when I think about it, I mean, that geneology book could potentially live om forever, without any deterioation unlike a book.

But simultaneously, when I look at my name, it kinda reminds me of my parent’s emotional abusive and neglectful behaviors. Ugh, idk, feels so conflicted about it. I really wanna ask questions about the past, but we aren’t really on speaking-terms anymore.

When people ask my name, it’s always just so awkward, since… the pronounciation is totally foreign to them. I kinda wanted to choose an English name for simplicity here in the US, but like… I didn’t pick one when I was younger and I think its kinda too late to use one now. Idk what name to even choose.

  • AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip
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    6 days ago

    I have a very common English first name. Biblical name. I’ve met plenty of people with the same name.

    Family name is one of many variations of a last name I don’t know how common it is in general. Looked it up and apparently it’s an Americanized variant and apparently rare Swedish variant of a Swedish last name that’s a patronymic from a personal name. Not gonna say what name because it could give away the spelling.

    I’ve never been to Sweden, nor do I really consider myself having much of any European roots in general outside of ancestors having lived there and probably living there now, but I am not about to be the person to say that makes me anywhere near European when I’ve lived in North America my whole life. I cannot say I have any connections or traditions that may go on in wherever any family I may have over there that my family practices since our family has probably been here many generations.

    Closest connection would be an old family Bible. It’s big and I’m pretty sure it’s written in German if I remember correctly. Currently in my dad’s possession. Family heirloom, I guess.

    I can tell you that knowing where my ancestors have come from did inspire the name for my fursona ( last name Hemming ), but that’s minor influence since I picked the name because I like how it sounds and because Earnest Hemingway ( haven’t read his stuff, so don’t count me as an intellectual in that way ).

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    7 days ago

    Hebrew. Notably not a Torah/Old Testament name. It also exists in other Asian languages with different meanings, and is an opposite gender name in most other languages. I’ve never met one personally.

    I like the ambiguity it lends me.

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    First name is ultimately derived from Hebrew, it’s one of the most common names in the English-speaking world, and variations of it are similarly popular in basically every place where Abrahamic religious have a foothold.

    It’s fine. I’ve met plenty of people with my name, I don’t particularly like or dislike it, it is just my name.

    My last name is kind of interesting. It’s ultimately of Italian origin, but sometime after arriving in America someone basically decided that it sounded too Italian, dropped the vowel at the end, swapped out about half of the remaining letters, and created a new name that kind of sounds similar to the original.

    Looking at it, you’d probably never peg it as an Italian name. Sometimes people look at it and try to pronounce it as if it were French, but that’s not how we pronounce it.

    I rather like my last name. I probably use it more than my first. It’s got a nice ring to it, it’s unique, there’s rarely going to be anyone else around with the same name to avoid confusion, it’s got some fun family history to it, and as far as I can tell, it doesn’t exist anywhere in the world outside of my family.

    Unfortunately, my family is pretty uncreative with male names, if you look at the top 100 names in the US from the last 100 years, my entire family tree can basically be found in the top 10 or 20. I’m aware of at least one other person with the same first and last name as me and there’s probably a good handful more, and there’s a solid chance they have the same middle name as me too.

    I rarely see the extended family so not a huge deal.

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    7 days ago

    I’m quite happy that you stick with your Chinese name. You should never give in to the pressure. I’m Belgian. My country has three languages and the French speaking friends always mess up the pronunciation.

    When it matters, like when I’m certain I’ll meet them again, I correct the pronunciation. I became better at it and found words for reference. So when they pronounce the word correctly, they get my name too.

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    My family came to the US Irish, when it was bad to be Irish, so they picked a Scottish surname to avoid the repression that Irish immigrants were facing. My given name was a tribute to my mother’s friend who died when she was young.

    All in all I’m not disappointed by what I was named. There is/was a somewhat famous person with whom I share it.

    I’ve also had plenty of nicknames and I haven’t been mad about any of those either.

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    Boring English name. It’s fine.

    I met someone with my same first and last name when they called my name to come up to the podium at the airport gate and two of us showed up.

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    7 days ago

    I’m a Norwegian with a pretty common nordic first name. My last name is a very rare one, and it denotes a very small area where my family is from.

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    My first name is Hebrew, it was supposedly the name of the father of David. My last name is Italian, apparently it was once a derogatory term.

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    Germanic/Nordic name. I’m an American. The name sounds like it comes from my European heritage, but it has no family history, just randomly selected. And my spelling is less common in America, which has led to a lifetime of having to spell it out or correct when it has been mistranscribed (literally, people would read it from a paper and transcribe it wrong when typing it).

    Now that I live in the Netherlands, at least there are no transcription errors. People are less unfamiliar with my spelling here

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    I have 7 names and i never met someone with my “callname” (its one part of a double name) but i got close to meeting one.
    I am pretty sure that my name is unique throughout history as the names are partly eurobean, partly jewish but also some rare.

    The reason i have so much names is simple: my parents wanted their children to have choices as every child hates their given name
    So we got a few legit ones we could choose from.
    My older siblings got less and then gave me as much as possible because they thought i was going to be the last child. My younger sibling got “just” 6

    We also had a few rules for the names:

    • first name had to start with the first letter of my mothers last name (we got our fathers last name)
    • we had to have a name that starts with the first letter of my fathers last name
    • we all have the name of the “next best” (higher birthrate) deceased family member

    For me its pretty fun to introduce with my full name as the faces stop getting more shocked after the fourth.
    Its especially daunting for people who have like 3 and think they have a lot

    I personally embrace having a lot of names
    I use it to get a positive first impression
    I haunt people with the idea that if they are mean to me i only react when they either call me by full name or that i assign a different name on each weekday that they have to use
    Also i can annoy people filling out lists with “how much name do you need? just the first or complete or what?”

    It has its drawbacks because in case my name gets shortened in databases it gets mostly shortened to the first and then i see others with 3 names or something where the complete name is in there

    Also with bureaucracy even when its fun its taking time which is less bad for me because i got used to it but still a drawback.

    But at least other people only reacted positive to the amount of names as long as they did not have to write them down