I find it interesting that some people are strictly monogamous while others are on the complete opposite end of the spectrum and prefer exclusively non-monogamous arrangements. I respect all variations; I’m just curious about the influences behind them. Personally, I’m monogamous myself, but I’m okay with my husband being with other women as long as I don’t feel neglected and he’s discreet about it. I think this perspective has been influenced by my parents’ marriage.

  • Isa@feddit.org
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    3 hours ago

    I believe it to be a trait, like the sexual orientation, that is preset. It might, due to past experiences, vary a bit, but … I doubt that it can be changed entirely.

    ~But, as I said, that’s not more than just a belief of mine.~

    • Passerby6497@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 hours ago

      It also has a lot to do with who you choose to partner with.

      I’m poly and in a semi-open relationship with my two partners, but we all started as monogamous and eventually branched out. One of my former partners was poly for a while, but after getting with a mono partner, she decided to marry and have them as their only partner. They miss some of the poly aspects, but they’re happy in their relationship and get some of them from BDSM play as well