Source: Me.
I’m trying to hang on Cantonese and Mandarin as much as possible, but it’s so fucking hard because Cantonese is so triggering of my traumatic memories, and Mandarin just reminds of the CCP. Like… in my mind its so hard to separate langage from parents or a regime.
If it makes you feel any better, there’s no shortage of Mandarin or Cantonese speakers in the world, so you shouldn’t feel guilty if you don’t want to speak them yourself.
Maybe figure out if any of your ancestors spoke any of these, and learn that instead?