That needs way more context.

• Taking the trash out the night before it’s going to get picked up, is what’s right.
• Not wanting to do it at all, is how I feel.

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I don’t have context for your question, and sometimes someone gaslights you into thinking what they want is the right thing. But taking your question at face value, having someone encouraging you to be your best self isn’t a bad thing. I think that’s one of the ways we grow as people.

Yours is a compound question.

Yes I have been in a relationship where I was always caught up in a battlefield. It had nothing to do with right v how I felt and everything to do with the other person being a psycho nut job.

Once I stoped allowing myself to obligated to their bullshit I kicked them out of my life.

Yes. I was in an unhealthy relationship that wasn’t making me happy. I had to decide to let him go and let him heal his depression/life issues alone in his own way which was the right thing to do (I tried encouraging him to go to therapy, but he didn’t want to). Or stay in the relationship trying to fix him because I loved him so much that which was how I felt (I was the fixer of the relationship trying to patch his wounds). He told me he wanted to break up with me first because he knew the relationship was taking a toll on both of us due to his depression, family, and financial issues.

Yep that was my marriage. Took me way too long to realize i’m not that bad.