Mine is comics. It was a fluctuating hobby since childhood but it finally ended for good this year. I just couldn’t get into them again and didn’t dedicate any amount of time to indulge on what I had around me. Like I used to have a stack of Hellblazer comics, I had a couple of Spider-Gwen graphic novels, a few Batman ones including A Death in the Family and Frank Miller’s Dark Knight graphic novels.
But regardless, nothing stuck anymore. I’ve actually grown exhausted by how overwhelming the comic ecosystem has gotten, even when trying to take it in moderately. I got tired of continuity fractures in many characters that I liked, I got tired of the pointless power-leveling debates between which versions of characters, I never really liked overpowered characters to begin with and I haven’t even scratched the surface as to how politically and socially involved comics has gotten into. And I’m so over with overly redundant story tropes and all of these multiverses and alternate universes that are just used as lazy writing pathways to excuse writers who’ve cornered themselves and are afraid to stick to bold, coherent arcs of some characters.
I hadn’t even touched also on the many, many movies that we’ve been seeing released. Not to mention how many blown chances that has happened because of politics and shit.
So many things that contributed to me just exiting myself from comics entirely, I donated nearly all of the comics I had and then some. I still stick with manga volumes because those are a little different to me than traditional comics, so I have a handful of those around.
I don’t foresee myself coming back to the comic universe any day soon.
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All of them. My several kids are teenagers, my job is over an hour commute (and I can’t find anything closer) and my spouse is working full time and taking night classes. I am pooped.
I used to homebrew beer, bake bread, 3d print, and far more.
I’m in a similar boat. Over an hour commute, younger kids with afterschool activities 4 days a week. A wife has a full-time job, luckily, she finally finished her master’ so we reclaimed Saturdays and I’m not running the taxi service solo.
Shit is exhausting, but I am glad our daughters got to see their mom a accomplished something so huge, and I’m proud to have supported her along the way.
Now that you mention it, I think I still have a case of 3 year old homebrew in the basement.
Haha, similarly, I have 2 carboys in the garage that are over a year old.
I may take long breaks, but I’ve never fully given up on a hobby.
I haven’t played airsoft in a couple of years. Mostly because I don’t have the time anymore. I used to play about once a month, but then I had to move to a different town, so now my preferred field is ~80 miles away.
If I’m using half a tank of gas just to go there and back, I want to make it an all-day thing. But I also travel for work nowadays, I’m only home most weekends. Taking my guns and gear on the road with me isn’t really an option; space on my work truck is at a premium, and it wouldn’t look good for me, if a DOT or customs agent were to stumble across an M60 machine gun during a level 1 truck inspection. I also have yet to find any airsoft fields that allow 18-wheeler parking. My truck couldn’t physically fit on the driveway to my preferred field.
Spending a day playing airsoft means I’ve only got one other day, if that, to do my chores and run my errands for that week, to say nothing of how physically demanding the game is. If I push myself too hard while playing (something else that happens when I’ve only got a couple days at home per month), I end up needing the following day just to recover.
I’d pick it up again if I ever get a regular 9-5 job though, or at least something that gets me home every night.
I really liked the larping aspect of airsoft. I might consider getting back into it if there was a group of only adult players but the average age in the local events is probably like 13 and I can’t handle that.
Oh yes, larping is my favorite part too. I like to get a bit weird with it though, milsim events are a bit too serious for my liking. Same with speedsofters.
My go-to garb is a thrift shop 3-piece suit, and my most-used guns are pistols and small SMGs. I stick out like a sore thumb playing outdoors.
If you’re ever anywhere near Dallas, D14 is a solid field for outdoor games. I’d also recommend CavTac or Alternate Arms, both near Fort Worth, for indoor games.
movies, performances, restaurants, basically anything involves going out and spending money
they all go way too expensive to justify anymore. everything is like $100 minimum to leave the house. even a coffee and a pastry is now 10-15 dollars and all the cafes near me have like 15m seating time limits they enforce.
i miss being able to spend an afternoon someplace for like 20 bucks. so now i’m either in the woods, which is still free, or at home cooking and watching TV
15 minutes sitting time limits, wtf. In Spain they would go broke in a week.
Gaming
It’s not even because of a bad thing there, it’s just that my now wife and I spend so much time together that we don’t really have time for much else
Tabletop RPGs. I’m sick of DND. Hard to find good groups for other games. There’s a meetup I go to every once in a while but I want a regular group building a big story together
Are you me? I played a ton of dnd, got burned out, now trying smaller different rpg systems. I particularly like Lancer right now and there is a strong online presence for it
Depending on what you’re parts of D&D you’re sick of Pathfinder 2e can be refreshing and relatively easy to find groups for, otherwise I’ve found if you want to play something else you probably have to run it yourself.
I hear pathfinder 2e is a big improvement, but still has some of the stuff I’m sick of.
- rolling a single die means flat probability. Equal odds of getting the worst or best possible outcome
- spells per day is anti-fun for me. I want to do cool stuff, not feel pressured to hold onto it “in case I need it later”
- class and level is very coarse, and makes some concepts impractical, impossible, or awkward to execute
- I’m not as interested in “numbers go up big” anymore, and that’s kind of the default.
- I’m not really in the mood for fantasy. I’d rather do modern day occult
For the first point, you could use a random generator and make it pick from a Gaussian or Poisson or other probability distribution depending on the situation.
For the rest, I do not know. I have been wanting to play a tabletop game with my board game group. But knowing them, I would have to be dungeon master and that seems intimidating since I have never played before.
For the first point, you could use a random generator and make it pick from a Gaussian or Poisson or other probability distribution depending on the situation.
Many RPGs that aren’t so closely related to DND use a dice pool. Instead of like 1d20, you might roll 3d6. Now you’re more likely to get an average result. Only one way to roll 3, but a bunch of ways to roll 10.
The nWoD games you roll d10s and count how many come up 8,9, 10. Very fast, and once you’re good at a task you know you’ll generally succeed. It’s more a question of how well you’ll succeed and how strong the opposition is.
I’m not mathy enough to talk beyond that, but I find it much more satisfying.
Playing under someone more experienced can build confidence, but the only way to learn how to run a ttrpg is to start running one. Find some one page RPGs with really simple rules that can be learnt in a few minutes and played over an hour or two. No one has to invest in anything, you can switch between different ones to find what people like, and there’s no pressure to keep running a campaign if you find it too much. Once you have an idea of what it’s like running a game you and your friends can decide if you want to play a long adventure.
PF2e does a surprisingly good job at both unequaling the odds with it’s degrees of success mechanic and making class and level a much more flexible system through feats, but probably not to the degree you’re wanting, and I can’t argue with the rest.
Delta Green isn’t a perfect fit for your requirements as it uses a single die, but it’s degrees of success system also unequals the odds, so it might still work for you. VtM and it’s relatives are probably a better fit, but I personally find them a bit melodramatic. I’ve found it pretty easy to find a VtM group by hanging around Goths, but haven’t had any luck with Delta Green yet.I had a really fun game of Vampire back in like 2016. I’d love to have another go at that, or Mage. The dice pool system always felt simple but exciting. Characters started out competent and being able to buy individual skills or powers was more satisfying than waiting for whole levels.
I’ve heard good things about Delta green, but never looked into it.
Alas, my college days where “hey you look nerdy you wanna play vampire?” are long gone.
I stopped doing Brazilian JiuJitsu after I got injured like 3 times over 6 months where as I’ve been lifting weights for 15 years and haven’t gotten injured once. It was fun but I don’t want to do it at the expense of my health. Also there’s always the one guy who takes it too seriously and ruins it for everyone else.
Gaming is another one. I get into it for a month about once a year but I’m just not particularly drawn to it anymore.
Admittedly, D&D (and other TTRPGs)
I used to do a lot of DMing but its a lot of work to keep the campaign up, dealing with players who just don’t show, and a million other frustrations.
I reached a point where I finally stopped and said “Am I even having fun playing this?” The answer ended up being generally, no.
I dm’ed for a family game (adult sibs and in-laws), thinking it’d be the easiest to schedule. Nope, I got tired of nagging about the next game, couldn’t help but interpret it as them not caring enough, and now just listen to naddpod and wait for my kids to grow up enough to play. I miss the table
Were you a “forever DM”?
I was, yes.
I’ve read a lot that this generally puts a strain on things.
If you ever consider getting back into it, maybe suggest making DM’ing a rotating role? After all, it pays off to understand the role of the DM as a player too, and premade adventures can serve as a good way to ease into the role by taking the strain of world building from budding DMs. And even then, you could still play a supportive role for them at first so they can get the hang of things.
And if your players refuse to do that, then simply ask them to look for another DM. Your role as a DM is scarce, so you have all of the bargaining power. And why should you respect players that don’t respect your role?
Its a potential though nowadays I’d have to somehow find a few hours a month to even get to play lol.
I used to do a lot of DMing but its a lot of work to keep the campaign up, dealing with players who just don’t show, and a million other frustrations.
Where on earth did people get the idea that D&D is for pasty-faced socially anxious nerds? I looked into TTRPGs as a hobby back in 2019 and determined it was too socially involved for me.
I think its more mainstream now, but looking for players ~2 decades ago, it was generally only socially anxious nerds who were interested in the idea. (At least around here)
I’ve seen some players prefer a ‘back seat’ and not engage too heavily in the social part of the game and watch others do that role, which is fine, but I could see where they’d probably prefer different types of games altogether.
Beer brewing. I simply do not have the time. Or energy.
None.
I mean, nearing my 60s, I’ve already trimmed down a lot of my hobbies. For example, since my childhood I have been on and off into plastic models (small plastic planes and vehicles to glue and to paint) but I let go of that hobby completely maybe 4 years ago. It still liked it, I just had to decide where I really wanted to spend that time, and I had other things to do.
What won’t go away, for as long as I’m able to at least, is reading/writing, sketching and painting (watercolor), long walks, listening (playing too, but barely) to music, and making stuff with my hands.
I don’t foresee myself coming back to the comic universe any day soon.
I don’t know your age but don’t be surprised if that does not go as planned. I will stick to my plastic model hobby: I had been off for almost 20 years at one time, I was just too busy after College but then, one day, out of the blue, and certainly not thinking the slightest about plastic kits, I stumbled upon a shiny box in some shop, looked at it and felt a familiar thrill in my spine, thinking this, I would like to build and paint I put it back on the shelves, could not resit going back to look at it after I finished shopping, put it in the cart with some glue and paint and, well, I was back at it ;)
I was super into the Star wars unlimited tcg, but I’ve really fallen off. Just didn’t find the play lines interesting. Now I’m getting back into Netrunner which you can play for free online.
Omg netrunner is the best card dueler I’ve ever played! I only played the physical version for like 2 years but it blew me away with it’s level of asymmetry and innovative mechanics that blended right in with the theme.
Not a huge fan of how bloated the card pool became and how they shifted away from the bluffing aspect of the game in later sets.
Hope they do an official reboot at some point!
Stepmania but only because I need a new pad now that the old one is too much a pain in the ass to fix and have it working properly.
I was an avid RPG player, collecting games and running with friends at clubs and stores and everybody’s houses. But as many of these friends have fallen away and trends have shifted, and as I get older it’s harder to make new friends for hanging out, I need to start reevaluating my hobby.
Movies. The plots are all the same. It’s most drivel. And it’s too expensive. Tickets are reasonable but popcorn, drinks, etc? Also streaming is becoming too much money.
TV. Too much and I can’t keep up.
It’s expensive to much of anything these days. It’s also unsafe to do things. I already have fears as a black guy with this political climate, but my daughter is half black, half Puerto Rican, and is about to hit puberty…
Sickos prey on little girls so it’s like I can’t just take her anywhere.
And this is why this 40’s male here mainly plays video games after work and plays Legos with his kiddo.
The anxiety about our climate sucks, man, sorry. Definitely not enough places for kids. I go for walks with my daughter sometimes. Library isn’t a bad option either
I mean I guess technically racing motorcycles. However it’s more of a circumstance thing, getting back into it would take, pretty easily, almost $10k. So I’m getting into MTB and BMX instead now. I absolutely will be back into it the second I’m able to though, up until very recently, I’d spent more years on a motorcycle than off of one. Age 4 to probably 23 I raced. 0-4 and 23-35 I haven’t. Miss it dearly every day, but I’m still very involved in it when I can watch it in-person.
