Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that’s a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn’t feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that’s too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

  • yermaw@sh.itjust.works
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    I wish I was an inch shorter. Im exactly 6ft and nobody believes me when I tell them because thats the “minimum man height” and people immediately assume I’m an overcompensating manlet despite standing there visibly being as tall as I say I am.

    Might just start saying 5’11 instead. See how lying to peoples faces works out.

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      2 months ago

      Be ready for a different type of comment pushing back then.

      I’m a 5’9"ish woman and routinely have guys insist I’m taller than 6’ because they’re shorter than me and they’re 6’ so I must be like 6’2".

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        I’m a 5’3 dude and sometimes I’ll have other short dudes be like “No you’re not! I’m 5’8 and you’re only like 2 inches shorter than me!”. As if being 5’8 is even sufficient for anyone who actually cares about our height.

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        Can confirm. Am same 5’9".

        Like there are two measuring systems. One for guys that rounds up by a few inches. What also is funny is I am keeping my height better than my husband (yoga really rocks for that), but he is always taller than me in his mind, and probably always will be.

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    6’4" here.

    I wouldn’t say I’d want to be shorter, but I have definitely experienced a lot of what you describe.

    In addition to being intimidating because I’m big, I also have real bad resting murder face. It used to bother me, but my wife is 5’1" (on a good day), and we’ve used it to her advantage.

    She’s often dismissed or not taken seriously. When she is being disrespected or expects to be, she brings me along. Everyone always treats her with respect when I’m standing behind her.

    I don’t like taking the train because my knees are pushed up against the seat in front of me. I’m also uncomfortable in most cars. I’m long in the torso, so even in an SUV I have to lean the seat way back to fit in. I currently drive a 2nd generation Honda Ridgeline, and it’s the first time in decades where I have space above my head.

    Clothing is difficult. I buy my clothing online because I can never find more than one or two options that fit in a store. I used to go to a outlet store because they had such a massive inventory, I could actually find things in my size. My shirts tend to be like tents because I usually can’t find the extra tall sizes, so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.

    There’s another downside to being tall that you didn’t mention. Years ago my son (taller than me) noticed that you don’t see many tall, elderly people. I had to break the news to him that, statistically speaking, being taller means dying earlier.

    Bigger people have more cells in their body. More cells means more chances for cancer. More cancer means shorter life.

    So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.

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      so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.

      the problem with that in my experiences is that most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer. I’ve had times looking at shirts in the store where the there was like an inch of difference in length between large and 3x large, but the width difference was astronomical.

      JCPenny seems to be dying out, but their online always seemed to have a good collection of tall and big clothes if you’re looking for stores.

      So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.

      Not soon enough

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        most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer

        No doubt. I’ve got a bunch of 3XL shirts that are at least 10 inches wider than I need them to be to get 1-2 inches of extra length.

        I think there’s also an assumption that if you’re tall it’s because your legs (and arms) are long, like a giraffe. I’m not built like that. I’m just big.

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          Yeah, makes finding clothes super hard.

          and then you wear it forever when you do, and refuse to give it up, even when its falling apart, because you literally have never found another shirt that fits like it.

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    Tbh yeah, a bit. I’m 6’7’‘. I’d be totally fine with being a few inches shorter. Being so tall does have a lot of advantages but I have a hard time finding slim cut pants in my size, office chairs that work for me or cars with enough leg room. I even had to pay a lot of money for a bicycle. I think the sweet spot is probably somewhere around 6’4’'.

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    I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

    I can’t tell you anything about yourself, but I think you should investigate this feeling further. Personally, my dislike of being tall made more sense to me when I realized I’m not a man.

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    My personality is so shit that tallness is kind of my crutch for navigating social situations. What I wish is that I didn’t need it

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    Charles de Gualle, who was 196 cm/6’5”, once said1, “We giants are never at ease with others. The armchairs are always too small, the tables too low. The impression one makes too strong.”

    I’m slightly taller than he was and I’d add the three concussions I’ve had simply due to height. Hitting my head in my own home is a truly miserable experience.

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    No. I kind of used to, growing up, because being lankier than all the other teenagers is kind of cumbersome and makes it hard to interact with the world around you, designed for smaller people. It’s not that big a deal tbh.

    I more wish that buses, cars and doorways were “me” sized.

    Nowadays I feel plenty small. For people who are drawn to height, your height is never enough lol.

    Edit: I’ve just remembered - bone problems. You know we get more bone problems because of how tall we are/how fast we grow? It’s ridiculous.

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    I’m 6’3” and short among the cousins in my family. I don’t mind being a couple inches shorter in conversation. I get a little self conscious when I’m a head or more above everyone else in the room, which is a semi regular thing. I want to be shorter when I bonk my head on things that are low hanging for me. If I was any taller it would be even more difficult to find clothing.

    I wouldn’t mind being a couple inches shorter, around 6 feet even.

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    yeah i often think about being 75 cm short, like a gibbon ape

    they’re so cute <3

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    Usually no, I generally wish I was taller. Or at least my legs were longer; I’m 5’9, but my legs are unusually short, due to a bunch of surgeries I had as a kid. If my legs were ‘normal’ I’d be over 6 feet tall.

    The only time I’ve wished I was shorter, was to fit in to smaller cars. Recently, I tried to drive a kei car called an Autozam, tiny little sports car, and I had to take my shoes off to comfortably use the pedals. My head hitting the ceiling is slightly problematic in a car that has gullwing doors.

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    I’m 6’7. Yes. I wish I was shorter.

    I’d be able to have a normal childhood if i wasnt tall, instead of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else play in the play places that have a max height/size limit to enter.

    I wouldnt have a terrifying phobia of ceiling fans.

    I wouldnt be crippled for days after having to travel on an airplane.

    I wouldnt have a bad back form having to bend over almost double just to do normal everyday things like cook and wash my hands.

    If you fall below the average height, the world can relatively easily be adapted so you still fit into it with simple things like step stools and what have you.

    But above average height? No, you don’t fit in, and theres no way at all to adapt to you. If you want a properly proportioned space, you’re gonna have to have $$$$ to build it for yourself, and listen to the constant complaints of friends and family who don’t want to visit because your house is to hard to use… completely utterly oblivious to the fact that all of their houses have been too hard to use your entire life and they’ve never given a single copper fuck about it.

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      I wouldnt have a terrifying phobia of ceiling fans.

      I have broken five ceiling fans. two with my knuckles, two with my wrists, one with my head (it was in a trailer).

      I live in a house with 10’ ceilings now, so not so much of a problem unless I go to the basement (watch your head).

      I wouldnt be crippled for days after having to travel on an airplane.

      I refuse to fly anywhere I could take a train instead for this exact reason.

      I wouldnt have a bad back form having to bend over almost double just to do normal everyday things like cook and wash my hands.

      don’t forget bathroom mirrors. I haven’t seen my reflection above my chin in a year because I just got tired of bending over to see myself. when I shave it’s just easier to use the selfie cam on my phone.

      • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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        don’t forget bathroom mirrors. I haven’t seen my reflection above my chin in a year because I just got tired of bending over to see myself. when I shave it’s just easier to use the selfie cam on my phone.

        Oh yeah, that reminds me of the chronic neckpain from being in a car and having to tilt your head so theres enough buffer space that you dont crush your spine against the roof on every bump