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I’m 44. The fact I’m still living. Nothing is wrong with me health wise. It’s just that past 40 is such a long time to live.
Sorry for how trite and predictable this is, but even though I was pretty cynical half my life ago, I couldn’t have imagined so vile and corrupt a personage occupying the White House as what is there now, nor how easily and with how much cooperation they’ve been able to destroy the Constitution and government that was based on it.
My boyfriend cares about me. Like, deeply. Like he will go out of his way to do things to support me. I was raised being told over and over that men are selfish and generally more concerned for themselves than their wives. That I need to be prepared to shoulder more of the burden. This is weird. He’s super nice. I can’t get over it.
I see this depiction of men all the time, and it just baffles me.
At the end of the day, most men are so happy when they are able to provide, protect, and support their wives / families / friends. Doing so is how most men measure their success in life. As Eddie Murphy said, all we really ask in return is the big piece of chicken.
because it’s a projection. the women who complain about men being like that… are mostly talking about themselves.
i’ve dated many women who thought that way… and they are talking about themselves. they see the world through an adversarial lens and everything is about them having power over others and being terrified of anyone having power over them.
and if you explain to them you don’t want any power over them they simple don’t believe you. they think it’s a lie or a manipulation tactic… because that’s how they treat everyone, through lies and manipulation. and no matter how honest you are with them… doesn’t matter because they don’t believe honesty exists.
parents project their shit onto their kids, it sucks.
a lot of unhappy people, refuse to let anyone around them ever be happy. you’re allowed to be happy. don’t let other folks unhappiness ruin yours, because they will try very hard to ruin it for you.
My wife is like that for a lot of valid reasons. If I may give you a useless piece of advice, enjoy it instead of fighting it because he may be serious about what he is doing.
I am surprised that I made it out of my 20s and 30s alive. I also didn’t expect to have a job that aligns with my ethics. I am a caregiver for high functioning adults with special needs and pretty good at it.
The two things I think would be most surprising to 25 year old me would be that I still skateboard regularly, and how happy I am being single, as they’d just gotten married and been told they’re too old to be skating.
At 21 years old, I would never have thought I’d be living in [REDACTED] with 4 kids, a GF and awell paying job I actually like.
Alternatively, 21 year old me would probably have had his mind blown if I’d shown him all the places in the world I’ve had the pleasure of visiting.
That everything I learned about computers from assembly language in the 80s to tinkering with all the operating systems in the world would be thrown in the trash by a bunch of moronic managers who decided that ChatGPT was better than learning and being curious.
And as a result, that I would be disgusted by what is happening with programmers, and that I would find another job that does not involve any technology whatsoever. I loved that shit, I hate what it has become.
I had a dead-set career path (game design) and even went to college with this path in mind. When it all came together and I finally had the opportunity to do it, I made a sudden decision against it.
Ended up being the right choice, but I don’t think my younger self would believe it.
That made me curious: what’s your current field? And has your college degree been useful in another way than originally intended?
Wow, I could write something similar. It was game dev for me. My younger self prepared for the college path. I didn’t deviate. I didn’t land a job in the industry and now do something similar, which isn’t exactly games (VR training simulations). Best decision of my life.
Younger self might be disappointed I don’t make cool games.
How much of working life is emotional prostitution.
I’m not sure 20 year old me would be very surprised. I ended up pretty much exactly where it would be expected of me: still single, living in a garage, working a dead end factory job. No possibility of ever owning a home and dwindling possibly for any kind of retirement.
Probably the credit card debt. And learning how long that asshole cat I got as a sophomore in college ended up living (18.5 spiteful years).
Mid-forties now. Mid-20s me would be surprised to know that yes, he does have major depression and doesn’t have to just find a way to work around that. A lot of great things came after that, but many unnecessarily bad things in the interim. Now I’m just what I feel to be a normal amount of depressed! 😅
The level of evil that adults are capable of. My young self would never have imagined it. I used to think humans were nice to each other.
- Half would be 19.5.
So, second year of college. I would be surprised about my salary vs what that’s worth in today’s economy. I would have been ecstatic with this back then. Would have thought I was living the dream. Inflation is a bitch.
Also, I probably would be shocked at how cool retro handhelds are now. I just got a Retroid Pocket Nova, and it can play every console I’ve ever had (I stopped console gaming at the PS2). And, it can run some Windows games. At 19, I was rocking a Windows Mobile 6 PDA, with a 624 MHz processor.
I’m chronically ill. I was always healthy and skinny and would totally judge fat people.
