Moment of clarity? Embarrassed? Lost control of an antagonistic agenda?
Cause I accidentally commented on a tankie post and I’d rather not be told half a dozen times to off myself.
But you’re supposed to provide them their daily praxis. /s
I write dumb stuff sometimes. Doesn’t matter why, I just screw up.
Most of the time I’ll leave the post up. Whatever. I’ll live.
Sometimes everyone and their cousin needs to reiterate over and over that they disagree with what I wrote. I get tired of the notifications, yeah I know I screwed up, but everyone wants a gold star by their name for telling me so.
So I delete it. Enough is enough.
Ya or when you are the voice of logic and reason in a thread that’s about a highly emotionally charged topic.
If you suspect they might, always quote reply.
Could be shame
It’s shame avoidance, can’t cope
I do it when I realize it’s a comment I don’t want to be associated with. Maybe I realized I was being tone deaf, maybe I realized I was being monumentally stupid, maybe I thought I was being clever until the post posting clarity showed me the light, and maybe I realized I was wading into a fight I don’t want to actually fight.
I get the people who prefer edits, and if I think an edit is valuable I’ll make it. I’m very much not afraid to edit. But if there’s little interaction with something and I realize it’s something I’d rather not have said, well then I just delete it.
Oh god the amount of times I have done the same is embarrassing, maybe I should start deleting them too.
If it’s something egregiously wrong, I prefer to edit it and own up to my stupidity.
If it’s my considered opinion being downvoted, then I take the downvotes and backlash. I stand my ground, unless someone makes a point that enlightens me to consider a different position. Then, I’ll edit the comment to that effect.
The rare times I delete a post or comment is usually because I’ve posted something demonstrably false that I realized after posting it, or I replied to the wrong comment.
We are alike in every detail here. Good on ya.
Ya I delete a comment or post when I realize I received bad info and are spreading it. If you think you aren’t susceptible you are part of the problem.
Better to leave the comment up, and edit it when you realize the problem.
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The Earth is FLAT!EDIT: Well, apparently, I was misinformed and dupe by idiots. Mea culpa.”And the idiots aren’t even the problem, it’s the disingenuous experts. When your a voice of authority and are spreading misinformation, well that’s the end of humanity.
you know. I think im going to start trying to remember to start all replies to question ones by pasting the question and then answering in a second paragraph.
This is a great idea actually.
I delete my comments from time to time to cover up the fact that I was horrendously wrong and somewhat stupid for even thinking it. It’s hugely embarrassing and it takes away from my status as an “internet genius”. /s
I delete stuff if I was objectively wrong. If people just disagree with me I’ll leave it up, I don’t care about fake internet points.
I deleted everything on Reddit because fuck Reddit, website doesn’t deserve my content. I even got dms complaining about nuking my solutions to questions in gaming and the blender subreddit, but I just told them to leave reddit too lol.
I even got dms complaining about nuking my solutions to questions in gaming and the blender subreddit, but I just told them to leave reddit too lol.
Tell em the answers are here now ;)
I used to do this when I was on reddit from 2011-2026.
I did it because I’m a narcissist. Like actually, I was diagnosed with NPD in 2023. People disagreeing with me physically hurts. I don’t know how to explain it but when a person has a worldview disagreeing with me, it feels like an attack on me and causes this kind of ache in my chest.
Everything just gets translated to, “Oh, you think this way? God, you’re fucking stupid! I HATE YOU!” We cannot just disagree because my opinions and worldviews are so intrinsically linked with me. My whole world is me looking into a mirror and seeing nothing but my face. If it reflects something else, that’s frightening.
I obviously am trying to be a better person now and don’t react the same anymore, but in the day that is why I would do it.
Damn. Having that knowledge must be some kind of a relief, isn’t? I don’t mean the diagnosis, obviously, but it must have taken up so much of your energy.
Being a narcissist sound surprisingly like have zero inward confidence and self esteem every time I hear it described. Is that at all accurate?
I’d say so. Deep down, I don’t actually like myself. I’ve said before narcissism is like scar tissue or armor that limits your “range of emotion.” I’m either angry or feeling absolutely nothing.
I’m sorry to hear that. Thank you for responding and helping me better understand it. I wish you the best in your journey to feel better.
Kudos on you for trying to better yourself!
Thank you for writing this.
I’m from the neurodiverse crowd so while I might not be able to relate completely or agree, I can completely relate to the situation of people telling me they understand but behaving in a way that proves they really don’t and really can’t.
Best wishes for your progress!
I disagree.
EDIT: this was a bad attempt at a joke and insensitive, please accept my apologies
Delete this
That has got to suck. Absolute kudos for the self-awareness and working to better yourself, npd can hurt a lot of other people if you let it run wild.
So if humanity disagrees with a set of powerful narcissists, they will delete humanity. We should teach in schools that narcissism is genetic and humanity were better off without most of them.
Narcissism isn’t necessarily genetic, predisposition to it may be, but personality disorders seem to be caused by a combination of factors, with a major one being childhood experiences. Source My father has (unmanaged, but not particularly severe) NPD and I just wound up with CPTSD and no personality disorders. Same for all my siblings.
In my uneducated opinion, a much better school based approach would be to keep an eye out for children displaying signs of personality disorders, possibly even screening for them, and then trying to help get them access to treatment from a young age so they can stop hurting themselves and others sooner
Declaring genetics as the main factor is pretty recent. But anyway, given the person you inherit it from is usually not far away, mother and/or father and or grandparent/grandparents, the non narcissist parent (if any) is fighting an impossible battle. Knowing about NPD particularities early on, might increase chances, though.
A little mantra I like is
Don’t believe everything you think
Sometimes I come to that realization after I’ve hit the post button, and whatever I’ve said is either a dumb take or needlessly antagonistic. We already get so little free will, no need to throw away the bit we get just to be a stupid asshole.
I agree but I have a curve ball question.
When you come to the point, why not edit the post/comment to “I don’t agree with my original post/comment” or “I step away corrected”. Another take about information: “I have come to a realization that I was wrong and find someone’s comment [insert link] or this is the correct info [insert correct info is source link]”.
I ask this because I do the same as you but would this be a example of progression for ourselves and others? Is that a culture to have or do we naturally do that on our own paths?
Fair question, I guess it just depends on how I feel that day and whether or not it’s even worth engaging with even myself about it rather than expunge the dumb thought from existance. I don’t necessarily forget it, but the feels linger if I leave it hanging, and I only get so much time on this planet.
I guess it’s just easier to delete it and move on with my life and the next time I come across the thought I approach it differently for everyone’s sake.
I like to think I’m okay with being wrong, but just like every interaction, it goes smoother if I don’t need to backtrack and regain the trust of my interlocutor. Mulling on it myself instead of with someone I’ve already pissed off is probably more productive. I guess that’s also part of the learning curve.
These rang true to me.
I guess it’s just easier to delete it and move on
I like to think I’m okay with being wrong
Thank you for sharing!
This is what comes to mind for me every time I do so. Lately I’ve just feel obligated to try to do something different, like what I asked to you. Maybe it could be a way to not do bad comments at least.
You reasonable son of a gun!!!
You also shouldn’t believe everything that you breathe, or you’ll get a parking violation with a maggot on your sleeve.
Eres un perdedor.
“karma” farmin’
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