I like women. I like the shape and curves of the female body. I like boobs, I like asses, I like pretty vaginas. I also appreciate and am aroused by a nice cock. I’m however not otherwise attracted to the male body. I like femboys as long as they have a feminine-like shape and curves, as many of them do.

WTF is my sexual orientation?

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    I once read a personal ad - “single white female, 8 inch clit”

    We have too many labels. You’re a human who knows what you like today. It’s ok if something totally different floats your boat tomorrow.

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      Totally agree. I’m not sure why everyone focuses so hard on determining how many letters there are in their alphabet. 5 years from now it might be totally diff. It would be so refreshing if people simply said “Here’s what floats my boat today”

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    Idk, sexual orientations are just labels we make up to make sense of the world.

    “Femmesexual” sounds kind of cool though.

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      I think the term gynosexual already covers it. But yeah, if it’s pretty, fuck it. Labels are a useful shorthand but not always necessary.

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        For me “gyno” has connotations of biological sex/female genitalia because of its use in biology and gynacology etc.

        So I picked femme because it’s more about gender presentation.

        But everyone’s different. Whatever makes OP happy.

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    I guess you’re some flavor of bisexual as you are attracted to some men (based on the femboy remark) though you’ve got a distinct preference for femininity even in men. If you go scrolling through old Tumblr posts long enough you’ll probably find a term someone coined back in 2013 for your exact orientation… But, like, IDK man don’t overthink it. If anyone asks just say whatever feels right in that moment, straight/bi/pan/whatever.

    And remember saying you identify with a particular orientation isn’t some huge commitment. Saying you’re bi (for instance) doesn’t mean you’re attracted to all men, and no reasonable person would expect that. We all have preferences within our orientation.

    AITA?

    No. You’re figuring it out. It’s okay to not have all the answers

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      Edit: dear learned and thoughtful internet friends, here “sexual” functions as a self-deprecating double entendre, the thinly veiled meaning of which is “attraction irrespective of sex or gender” or, in the common tongue, “colossal whore.”

      So I am altering this comment for clarity. Pray I do not alter it any further.

      If anyone asks just say whatever feels right in that moment, straight/bi/pan/whatever.

      Especially in mixed company, my go-to is *-sexual where the wildcard * is silent. Those who don’t know will hear a non-answer to a rude question, but your friends will recognize it as candor.

      It also sidesteps the tiresome bi/pan distinction and avoids the least favorable option: “straight.”

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        Right, I’m not atheist but nor do I believe in the “god” of abrahamic religions, or the pantheons of others, nor that Buddha literally reincarnated; But I do believe there is some force or meaning behind existence. So I’m just “spiritual.” Sometimes a general label can work

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          Agreed, though to be clear, by this analogy I meant belief in all gods.

          As long as, you know, they’re hot. In the scriptural sense of course.

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    What you are today is not what you’ll be tomorrow. Let yourself be. You don’t owe explanations to anyone about what you like.

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    Who cares what label people might put on it?

    Just like what you like. It doesn’t need a label.

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      As a former warehouse employee I can attest to the value of labels. They’re what ensure that when you order a 3/8 box wrench you don’t get shipped a pair of white bunny slippers.

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    You get out there and suck a few girl cocks. Only then will you know the truth of your desires. I mean how bad could it be? Personally wouldn’t worry about it. If the dude who’s cock you’re sucking thinks you’re not gay then I would trust him.

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    I have a friend like you. He describes himself as gynesexual. He’s attracted to femininity no matter what the attached bits are.

    But, as others have said, the label is really only important to you. Pick something close or make up your own.

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      I was gonna say a trans-inclusive lesbian / straight man, but this fits way more.