When I signed up for Lemmy, I didn’t know about some wars that existed between instances, and when I chose lemmy.ml I thought, “Why not?”. Tbh, dont think too much about instances.

I signed up because I wanted to get the full Lemmy experience, but I don’t know if some instances block the instance I’m connected , and this is a bit confusing for me. At the beginning, when I joined Lemmy, I remember reading that it is advisable to choose the instance carefully, and I even assume that it was my mistake, but I think it could be a little easier for those who enter the fediverse. I guess. Know nothing at this time.

So, the question is there. Do you judge members by instance? I’m just a normal guy; I don’t like the extreme right or extreme communism. In fact, I think all extremism is stupid. But , if you could enlighten me on this, I would appreciate it.

At this point, I don’t know if I’m blocked by some instances or not. Basically, I want to enjoy having the entire Lemmy experience, where I could read all types of content.

EDIT: during this time, maybe some people judge members because the instance. And I dont like that feel if someone think “oh look this dude, is from lemmy.ml, he is extremist communist, for sure”. However, I’m not. Im just a normal guy without any politic side.

    • TheLordlessBard@lemmy.world
      171·
      8 months ago

      I have an alt account on sh.itjust.works for whenever lemmy.world is down. I’d love to know what you dislike about them so I can determine whether or not I should have a different alt instance. I’m pretty OOTL when it comes to instance drama

        • imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works
          12·
          8 months ago

          Sh.itjust.works isn’t supposed to be about technology, although I could see how you might get that impression based on the banner picture or name. I mean there’s definitely a lot of tech people but that’s also true of Lemmy as a whole.

          It’s just a general purpose server, probably with mostly North American users due to the location. And also an especially high concentration of French Canadians

    • Kalcifer@sh.itjust.works
      7·
      8 months ago

      Out of curiosity, could you elaborate on what being a member of sh.itjust.works says about one’s personality?

    • Victor@lemmy.world
      52·
      8 months ago

      To be honest I think your personality sounds pretty based 😄

      Have a good day!

    • dez@lemmy.mlOP
      23·
      8 months ago

      this dont make sense for me, but I guess I need to understand your view. As I said, I dont think too much about the instance … And imo dont reflect nothing about me since this is just internet and dont reflect my thoughts. I can be what I want here, nobody knows if im lying or not. I can be one of the brothers of Bradd Pitt and probably some people believe on this lie.

      Now I’m understanding some people have some wars between some instances and block some instances. At this point I’m more and more confused tbh. But yeah, ty for your opinion

      • Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee
        10·
        8 months ago

        It’s usually not that users block instances because only certain apps can do that. It’s just that not every instance federates with every other instance. In the case of lemmy.world you can go to lemmy.world/instances and scroll to the bottom to see which instances they don’t federate with. Not federating means that lemmy.world is not “listening” to these instances and as a lemmy.world user you’re therefor not hearing from those people either. If some other instance defederates lemmy.world it means that you can still see posts and comments from the users of that instance but they can’t see yours.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    36·
    8 months ago

    I have never once looked at a user’s instance.

    There probably are some people who do, just like how there are people who will judge you based on what brand of pants you wear, but most people are just glad that you’re wearing pants.

  • SuperDuper@lemmy.world
    397·
    8 months ago

    If you’re on lemmygrad or hexbear I will immediately dismiss pretty much anything you say and assume you aren’t worth interacting with. Otherwise I don’t put a lot of stock into what instance a user belongs to. Sometimes your instance can indicate that you have certain interests (technology based instances, startrek.website) or how you identify (blahaj.zone, pawb.social, etc).

    I have a lot of issues with the admins of lemmy.ml, but I don’t think the users are inherently problematic. The server itself is advertised as being for privacy and FOSS enthusiasts, so I think a lot of people join without realizing the admins enforce their explicitly communist viewpoints that sometimes border on being pretty tanky.

  • LopensLeftArm@sh.itjust.works
    231·
    8 months ago

    Yep. If I see someone from hexbear, anything they’re saying I immediately ignore. Lemmy.ml is full of assholes, but they don’t advertise it that way so a lot of decent people are on there too. You can’t really judge an individual just because they’re on lemmy.ml imo.

  • Mac@mander.xyz
    161·
    8 months ago

    Short answer: yes
    Long answer: some of us even have entire instances blocked

  • skulblaka@startrek.website
    14·
    8 months ago

    The only instance that I’ll usually immediately give a side-eye to is Hexbear, and only them because a significant percentage of those folks have a certain… style and culture that gets on my nerves. But an individual can still be a cool person and it’s not like I’m about to come in the comments and dunk on you or preemptively block you based on your home instance. I block users because they’re assholes, or annoying, or argue in bad faith, not based on where their account is hosted. And I would expect that’s probably consistent across most lemmings. You won’t get a bad rap only for being affiliated with ml. Now if you say something stupid somebody might use it as a bludgeon to talk bad about ml as a whole, or vice versa, but that’s going to happen any time you have something approaching “team sports” like this.

    In general, don’t stress this too much. In specific, keep up with what’s happening on your home instance and if they’re doing something you don’t like, pack up and move elsewhere. That’s a core function of the way the fediverse is constructed. If it sucks, hit the bricks. You can just leave, and set up shop in another instance, or host your own, and you aren’t beholden to anyone. But if you don’t care then you don’t have to.

    • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
      21·
      8 months ago

      a certain… style and culture

      “Oh, you don’t love Stalin? Have you considered pee pee poo poo?” -Hexbear, unironically. and when challenged, they double down and act like its some form of moral intellectual superiority

      • saltesc@lemmy.world
        2·
        8 months ago

        That’s the impression I get. Bunch of college kids learning something new for the first time, think no one else knows it, and therefore they have the best smelling farts.

  • NuXCOM_90Percent@lemmy.zip
    14·
    8 months ago

    I don’t judge people based on their instance. Although, there are a few instances I have just straight up blocked because their users just cause way too many problems.

    That said? If someone is being a jerk, I will look at their instance and quite often have a “yeah, that checks out”. I don’t really have any issues with lemmy.ml but I have definitely noticed a “type” of user. Not bad enough to block the instance but enough that it often counts as two strikes as far as I am concerned. Be a jerk and I see you are from lemmy.ml? Good odds I just block you then and there rather than checking your comment history to see if this is a recurring theme or not.

    • flying_sheep@lemmy.ml
      32·
      8 months ago

      Which ones did you block? I blocked lemmygrad and hexbear. Helped my blood pressure a lot I think.

  • Lenny@lemmy.world
    9·
    8 months ago

    I spend an hour or so on Lemmy a day and other than the bad bad ones (the ones named to attract predators etc) I have no clue what all the instances are. I see lemmy.ml and assume it’s just a lesser used main instance.

    So, no judgement from me.

  • Lvxferre@mander.xyz
    8·
    8 months ago

    On one side you’re expected to register to an instance that suits you; like, anime fans in ani.social, people interested in LGBT+ topics in blahaj.zone, so goes on. And there’s that common knowledge that, if you feel out-of-place in an instance, you can register to another.

    On another, people know that plenty other people don’t know (or don’t care) about instances. And sometimes you get really clueless posters, specially recent redditfugees.

    So yes, you’ll be judged by some people. Not by everyone. (Personally I use the user’s instance as a heuristic factor on the type of user that I’m dealing with. But on its own it’s simply too little info to conclude anything.)

    Now, regarding specifically lemmy.ml: I was part of that instance for a few years, so be aware that you might run into problems later on because the admin team there is prone to enforce hidden rules. Still, I don’t expect you to be judged based on any “strong” stereotype regarding that instance, as it used to be the flagship instance, so you got plenty “random” users there.

  • daniyeg@lemmy.mlEnglish
    71·
    8 months ago

    if you’re in one of the “far-left” instances or unmoderated instances that are sources of spam, you’re probably gonna get judged, otherwise no. i didn’t know lemmy.ml had this reputation and made my account here as well but i don’t really mind since i don’t have that many issues with moderation here.

    “a normal guy without any politic side” is a very political position and i suggest you find an instance that agrees with that position since a very important filter on what you can or can not see is the admins of the instance you are using. i doubt you are missing much on lemmy.ml but you can always try other instances and see which communities they have there that isn’t present on lemmy.ml.

    as a side note lemmy is, disappointingly, just another digital social media platform but federated. you’re still gonna see people fight, throw their opinions at each other and in general talk about politics. a large segment of people on lemmy are either reddit refugees or people that were rejected from other social media. yes on average people here tend to be older and more educated compared to general population that use the internet, but most people here are outside the “norm”.

    • dez@lemmy.mlOP
      1·
      8 months ago

      And which instance I choose to get the full experience of Lemmy and see all communities?

      • dustyData@lemmy.worldEspañol
        7·
        8 months ago

        None, that’s the point. Your experience and what you see depend upon you and your choices. There’s no true Lemmy experience. The freedom and flexibility is the core of federation. You choose what your experience is, not a central arbitrary algorithm written by a for profit megacorp.

      • edric@lemm.ee
        2·
        8 months ago

        You’ll have to decide on your own. Pick a couple of instances that interest you, then check the list of instances they are federated/defederated with. If you really want to see everything, then pick one that hasn’t defederated with a lot of other instances.

        I personally like lemm.ee because the admin is cool and they don’t haphazardly defederate at the slightest inconvenience.

  • piskertariot@lemmy.world
    6·
    8 months ago

    I signed up for the first one I saw, and subscribed across instances without ever considering that people might care where you came from.

    People are going to judge. I try to not to be like people.

  • masterspace@lemmy.caEnglish
    51·
    8 months ago

    I’ve had people guess that I’m probably Canadian since I use lemmy.ca, but for me, generally, I don’t judge people by their instance since I don’t default to looking for it and my default apps don’t display it, but when I’ve gotten into frustrating circular arguments with people I have often noticed that they’re from lemmy.ml.

    Personally I think this is why Bluesky’s ATProtocol design of not tying identity to instance is a good thing, but since that’s not opened up yet that’s a little neither here nor there.