• Lapus@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I’m terrified of heights. No one knows. I’m great at faking it.

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      1 year ago

      So am I. I took rock climbing lessons. It was one of the hardest things I ever did. Eventually I lost the fear and felt awesome. Stopped climbing for years and now it’s back. Fuck.

      • Lapus@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        That is interesting how it went away and came back. Putting me on a ladder almost paralyzes me. I have to block the world out and focus on breathing in order to finish the task I got up there to do. .

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          Exposure treatment works. It sucks but it works. You just have to keep chiseling at it slowly but constantly. If you keep it up for long enough you will realize that feeling is almost gone when exposed to heights. The key here is being relentless at exposing yourself to what scares you (safely). In my mind, I just thought my brain was getting bored with always being scared and it just kinda went away. About a year in I went from not being able to walk on the hallway of the 4th floor of my college building to actually sitting on the railing (like everyone else). The thing is I wasn’t faking not being scared. I was genuinely not scared.

  • Cyber Yuki@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Not never, but at least for a few years (hopefully not my entire life): I’m transgender. 😞

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          Making up stories of past and present hardship for sympathy does sound like my ex who was diagnosed with BPD. But not everyone diagnosed behaves the same, and there are several similar disorders in the cluster, plus comorbidities. The diagnoses are really just descriptive anyway. We don’t know enough about our minds to really understand.

          Ultimately doesn’t matter. Sounds like you have reason to doubt this person. If you can’t or don’t want to disconnect then all you can do is watch their behavior and react accordingly. If they betray your trust it does really matter why they did it.

          Good luck, my friend.

  • afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world
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    When I was about 11 I found roadkill, put it in a mailbox close to my home, watched from the window, and laughed when the mailman screamed.

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    1 year ago

    I’m into ABDL.

    Yes it’s becoming more accepted but, I don’t think I could ever find a partner that enjoys it.

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    Oh so we’re going to try and carry on the tradition of fishing for people’s dark secrets on here now too? Lame.