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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I grew up in a very similar house. This is indeed uncommon.

    My advice:

    • you’re doing great by going to therapy
    • get out of the house at all costs as soon as possible (today if possible)
    • wherever you end up, you will have a rough go, but you will find work and a way to support yourself. You’re a good person, and people want to work with good people
    • in your new city, join a volunteer group. This will help you to understand that there are good people out there, that you can make a positive difference in the lives of people with similar experiences, and that there’s good in the world. Social connectedness is very strongly correlated with happiness
    • people can begin to resemble their abusers but sometimes they become saints. You’re on the right trajectory, keep up the good work

    I’m a programmer. Happy to take a DM from you anytime. Also if you go to SF, I can give you more info.



  • The bespoke short-lived solutions angle is an interesting one, to be sure.

    I wonder how many orgs will back themselves into a corner thinking their product will be short lived but it ends up hanging out for a while, as you mentioned.

    Honestly this feels like an extension of this Agile/Scrum madness we’ve been dealing with since the mid-2000’s. Instead of the next quarter, we’re only building things with a view of the next two weeks.

    Now it’s measured in hours, and even then we can give a prompt to an LLM and have a half working thing to throw away after it converts that PDF to a CSV.

    I worry about the craftsmanship leaving this field. Engineers used to push back and for good reason.