Somewhere inbetween. I had a friend who was a cook and I didn’t know shit about cooking. He would come over, then we would go to the supermarket and smell the different produce, and look at the meats and come up with something to cook. We would buy it, go back and chef it up. Learned a whole lot about cooking and flavor profiles etc. Some of the best times I’ve ever had.
I’m a groomsman in his wedding in November. For the bachelor party we are renting a cabin with some people. We are going to dream up a menu, go shopping, and chef it up again. I can’t wait.
A great idea, killed by coordination overhead.
It works if you’re like 22 and have few responsibilities and much free time.
If you’re 44, fuck that noise, I got a routine to keep or everything will fall apart.
Oh cool so that’s normal…
Yeah, I think it works that way for most people. I’m an introvert and I could deal with it, probably even enjoy it while it’s going on and swear that we would do it again. And then schedule it and dread it the day before going I just don’t have the energy for this.
I think it first, life gets in the way and then like an atrophied muscle. We lose the social stamina.
Can vouch @ 44 things fell apart.
I love this type of bonding with friends and used to do it a lot. The problem is you have to live or be kinda close by, but I guess that is true for any less formal meetup. I guess the furthest away you are the more “a thing” the meetup must be and the duration longer.
In any case I love do errands with friends and even go help out with something. Even though I don’t have time and energy for my stuff I feel like energy for hanging out with friends doing errands como from a different bucket.
It’s because it feels great doing something while also procrastinating your own stuff to do
That is so true. It is like a silver lining. I may be procrastinating but I am helping and spending some quality time with a friend.
Can we just normalize ‘come lay down somewhere and relax?’ That would be great. Thanks.
No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.
This is the thing that is destroying the USA. I’m not even joking. We don’t have the things you’re talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.
We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.
We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.
I miss the malls, man. Like, some of them still exist, but they’re dying. You used to be able to just go and window shop and chill and grab a bite. Maybe go hit the arcade. Go watch a movie. You didn’t really have to have plans. You would just meet up and then fart around doing something.
Now it’s almost all strip mall. What are we going to meet at the target? Then walk a mile in the weather to go to the Best Buy.
Of course, I also miss my friends being as bored as I was. I think social media and local devices replaced a lot of that.
What about glory holes?
Yes your mother’s bedroom is fair game.
Parks? Walking/hiking trails? Just wander off into national forest?
I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.
Uhhh, don’t we have city / county / state / national parks?
Can children go to these places alone? Can children do anything alone, actually? What if you don’t have a car?
I mean a society where you can easily walk to multiple different examples of several kinds of third space. Not where if you drive 30 min, you can get out into nature.
Hey man, youre ruining the circle jerk.
Ohshit, sorry, sorry. 🥰
The US has turned into Ferenginar so gradually I didn’t even notice!
I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can’t buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I’ve been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?
Uh, that’s nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re rather in the minority here.
They’re making a joke i think lol
If so, it’s not my humor I guess.
Man, I remember every weekend I’d have two or three friends all weekend, we’d all sleep on my bed. I miss those days. My bones hurt.
Third place
Let’s create a community for that. An app like Tinder, but instead of Netflix and chill, there’s just socializing and having a good time.
“Friends without benefits”
Only one of those is an errand though.
When you can no longer afford to buy things, including furniture, at stores, thrifting as a habit become an errand. Not one that takes long enough to meet up with a friend, I agree, but it is a slightly different headspace than going shopping.
I support thrifting 100% though. Buy stuff from real people, stuff that’s good quality that somebody no longer needs, and avoid buying newly manufactured disposable junk.
The only worthwhile thrifting is online at this point. Shops are crazily overpriced.
Dine on the free samples at Costco and you can skip the tacos
Never skip Taco Day.
I feel like doing stuff like that would make our bond stronger instead of only sitting in a coffee bar or a restaurant.
I have suggested a firepit by the beach but it doesn’t seem to get people interested. Despite costing almost nothing beyond maybe a few marshmallows.
Some of us don’t have beaches. And if you place a fire in a park…
What is wrong with a fire in the park? That would have been another suggestion. Or just go somewhere out of town for it.
In my country you get heavy fine because of wildfires…
Don’t start a wildfire then, do they also ban camping stoves?
Yes. I live in ruzzia, and they have whole week of “holidays” in may here when people usually do BBQ. And they completely banned them. You couldn’t do anything related to fire.
Ngl those are the catch-ups I enjoy most.
I do feel bad for making people paying hundreds to come visit, not to eat at least some local restaurants.
But for more frequent hangouts it would be nice to hangout informally.
Those are true friends.
running errands with a friend truly is the best way.
oh yeah spend 250 dollars instead of 85
I think the person is not implying that by going with the person doing an errand you also have to spend money. You are going as a companion.
Costco, is that you?
Yeah, but that $250 is a bunch of food, some books, and tacos instead of one ok meal and some mimosas.
With something clear-ish to focus on I will not only more easily plan my day & be there, but also be able to enjoy the time together, even retain more memories.
My dream woman
