Well, the jerk store called, and they’re running out of YOU!
I eat pieces of shit like you for breakfast!
You eat shit for breakfast?
……No
Because, naturally, it works on improving itself. This is just normal behaviour. As far as Darwinism goes, you’d be pretty undesirable if you made it this far with a brain that shutdown every time it could idle.
Dictionaries call this “contemplating” and it’s an incredibly powerful thing you ideally want your brain to do a lot of.
With the caveat that it can be easy for some people to trigger a stress response in themselves when ruminating on past events, at which point any benefit of contemplation may become outweighed by the negative effects of anxiety. Developing the ability to set aside a thought that’s causing you distress in the moment and learning to approach it from a more neutral or objective perspective are also powerful tools.
stairwell thoughts
TIL, thanks!
It has to be ego. I set my ego aside constantly and try to be open minded, and I am very open minded, but sometimes in privacy it’s just so goddamn big for no fucking reason… Like when rehashing a 10-year-old argument in the shower.
Alternatively, imagining arguments you could have, and coming up with responses in the shower.
I had a roommate that bitched at me for how I washed a pan poorly 20 years ago.
I still imagine arguing with him when I wash dishes maybe 30% of the time. It’s extremely stupid.
To prepare for the next time. Whatever they said to use affected us and so the defense mechanism is to not let that happen again. Also regrets.
I’d probably try to reflect onto how this topic or that person are relevant to you right now. There’re random chances to just remember stuff, but if it drove you to post it, you think that’s important, and this argument is probably unresolved or led to a less than enjoyable results.
In my experience if there’s a negative emotion (fear or shame usually) associated with a past situation which I don’t want to feel I think about it again and again in seach of a perspective that basically makes me look better. It’s futile. Best to just accept it as it happened, feel the feeling for a moment and then let it go.
