Long story short I have an image I don’t like but from another point of view I fit it perfectly. It’s not really a negative perception but I just don’t like I’m being shoved into a stereotype. It’s even more infuriating when I try to do my best to not fit into that stereotype. But people still see me as said stereotype.
So what should one do when they have an image they don’t care for? Should they try their hardest to change it? Or maybe something else?
It doesn’t sound like you don’t care about your image/reputation.
Start masturbating in public. People will forget whatever your other problem is.
I built a hundred bridges but am I known as John the bridge builder? NO! I built a dozen a castles but am I known as John the castle builder? NO! But I fuck one sheep…
You should focus on being true to yourself and let others think what they want.
Anyone’s opinion of you, that isn’t close enough to you to know if it’s accurate, doesnt matter.Are you a generously proportioned italian assumed to be a mobster, by any chance?
Suppose I was, what advice would you give?
Seriously, that’s actually a pretty good analogy. 😂
I suppose you could become Big Tony by turning fat to lean muscle but that would only increase the mobster stereotype despite all the hard work. If there’s a skill or love you have, you could lean into getting noticeably good at it. Then at least you’d be Fat Tony the Mobster Who’s Surprisingly Good At Textile Art.
Get a blue Mohawk and wear Hawaiian polos, cargo shorts, and tennis shoes everywhere. If you really don’t like what people see, change what they see. Or change the context they see you in. If you’re always hanging around a cleaners with other people who look like Italian mobsters and you look like you fit in then there you are. Whether it’s ultimately worth it to you to change your appearance or lifestyle is ultimately up to you. There are, ultimately, 4 ways to deal with a problem:
- redefine / stop thinking about it as a problem
- accept that the problem exists
- be willing to do whatever you have to do to change the problem
- be upset about the problem.
#4 is the only one I vehemently recommend against. 1-3 are all roughly equal in the amount of distress you will be left with in the end.
Learn to stop giving a fuck.
hugely depends on the social setting and maturity of the people involved.
People don’t randomly assign you to a stereotype. They based it off of your appearance and actions.
If you want to be seen as someone else, you need to act like that instead.
So what should one do when they have an image they don’t care for?
If one doesn’t care, why bother?
“Don’t care for” means “don’t like”
I don’t care for rutabagas
thx :)
This is the first phrasal verb that doesn’t make sense to me, or I can say, I don’t care for?
Nothing to be done - that image is all in the minds of other people, and you don’t control what they think.
Just do you, people will be who they are.
hermit.
Wear a funny hat.
Get a new group?
