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The problem isn’t YOUR self-awareness, it’s everyone else’s LACK of it.
This might be part of the issue but in reality high self awareness can also lead to excessive overthinking, ruminating, self criticism and hypervigilance. This is mechanics at play that are the root of some people suffering depression. By no means does this mean to become less selfaware rather to become aware of this pattern and recognise these thoughts: become more aware of ones self awareness.
Excellently put.
Develo self awareness for self awareness. Self-awareness²
I think it’s partly not being able to manage your internal life and partly not being able to manage other people. Ie: when I’m in freeze stress response I cannot manage myself and so cannot manage other people. If I had more control over my dissociation, I’d be clear headed enough to learn how to manage other people. We cannot control other people, but we can (theoretically) control our response to them. So the problem isn’t other people, the problem is you not managing your reaction toward other people.
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Ah yes, everyone else is wrong.
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I always worried that professional mental health care would be difficult for me, considering that I’ve spent so much time self-reflecting and coming up with strategies and mechanisms to get by. The first psychiatrist I ever worked with was blown away when we talked - she even asked for a hug when our session was over.
There’s definitely something to be said for having self-awareness. The struggle comes in when you’re so aware and already trying so hard that even the professionals have no notes to add.
Maybe they asked you for the hug to make you feel better. Were you self aware of that possibility?
Of course, but considering the context in which it happened, it doesn’t seem likely.
That and “you are every intelligent, I’ve never before had a patient who understands and knows so much, you can go so far if you just get past these issues.”
Ok, thanks, that only makes it worse. The “issues” are everything, they’re not just small bumps in the road. And you putting that kind of weight on me, that I’m expected to go way beyond just having a functional life, just makes makes it even harder to aim for a possible goal. I just want to get to a place where cleaning, hygiene, doing the most badic things expected work without feeling like it takes up more than twice the battery I have. It feels so disrespectful.You can’t spell “awareness” without “war”
Not relevant or otherwise useful, but true 🤷🏻
Isn’t that called “hyperreality” and it can lead to a kind of reality induced psychosis, because you’re talking about reality in a way others can’t necessarily see/accept.
This was actually something I was warned against when I first started into meditation and studying Taoism. You do need to stay somewhat attached to society’s perceived reality if only to be able to speak and relate with others on that plane of reality.
You can choose to fully see past the manufactured reality we’ve been given, but then it’s hard to participate when money and material goods holds no real value for you. Your living space holds no real value. Your job holds no real value… You might see how this could snowball quickly into no longer paying for your living standard and becoming homeless.
No one is saying you can’t, but that is something to be aware of on that path.
Taoism isn’t a value system, so the statements about value you’ve made - come from you. Not Taoism… Taoism also doesn’t dictate a path.
Also, why are people warning you about your own choices? I don’t know whose telling you this stuff, but maybe don’t listen to them, or anyone else trying to sound mystical about it all. This isn’t a kung fu movie.
With a range of meaning in Chinese philosophy, translations of Tao include ‘way’, ‘road’, ‘path’, or ‘technique’
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoism
Its whole philosophy relies on finding One’s path. Definition is up to the individual, but it’s important to make sure you’re telling that to someone in a healthy state of mind.
Sure, but I think that’s a bit like claiming the Buddhist concept of “Perfect Effort” is a set place, rather than a techniques the user can use to attempt anything.
It’s a bit like claiming heaven has an address. It’s silly.
The way isn’t about a set teleology or way/path of doing things, it’s a philosophy by which one can achieve many things. Not a finite set instruction list or address.
Any chance you can make me less self aware? Maybe a frying pan to the face or something…ignorance is bliss as they say.
Fairly simple home remedy for that
I know that feeling. But then they only get to hear my version and my point of view and what is if I’m wrong and the rest of our session is based on false assumptions…
I’ve never been but I’ve always assumed that therapy would involve asking you questions to determine how accurate your own take on things actually was to break down any false assumptions or change perspectives that may be causing you issues. I could be wrong though that’s just how I approach dealing with my own problems.
Nervously chuckles in social anxiety. 😭 👌
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Yeah, it’s the oblivious asshole bullies who are the happiest. I still don’t want to be one, but I can’t deny that life would be better if I had (say) my father’s limitless self regard.
Stupid mother fuckers (the scientific term) are rarely aware of the negative impact they have on those around them. Case-in-point: some lady at a green light just turned her hazards on and sat there blocking traffic for some unknown reason when we were coming home today. She’s way-too checked out to actually think about the people inconvenienced by her behavior or she’d be too horrified by what others thought to do so. I mean, some people are genuinely uncaring about others, but I think the majority don’t think past their own action rather than being sociopaths. They just aren’t thoughtful people.
You sure she just chose to do that on a whim and wasn’t experiencing functional issues with her vehicle? Depending on the context, you might be doing what you’re accusing her of doing by focusing on how it affected you rather than why she might have done it.
Not that it’s impossible that she was just being selfish or unaware, but that “for some unknown reason” stood out to me.
Functional issues with her vehicle?! What, did the front fall off?
Maybe she noticed the brake is not working properly and decided to not risk it. Maybe her car didn’t move when she pressed the accelerator. Maybe she couldn’t get into gear when driving a manual. Maybe the steering wheel locked up. I think there might be about a thousand issues why someone puts on hazards and can’t move the car (safely) anymore.
Or even a “less good” reason that she didn’t understand well enough to know it’s not a “just park it in the middle of an intersection” kind of situation, like her check engine light came on.
I once had a car stop working while waiting at a stoplight. Light turns green, press gas pedal, nothing. In a panic, I just keyed it off and started it again, and luckily that did the trick. I don’t think I would have had the sense at the time to use hazards if that hadn’t worked.
You’re right, but your example is putting you in the category of people you’re explaining. You couldn’t find a single better example? Really?
Here’s one: People at the metro will try to get on before others get off. They will just push their way past them like if they don’t get on right this second then the train will leave without them. It makes it harder for everyone else and the whole scenario is easy to see from all perspectives, yet they still miss it. No guessing reasons, just moronic selfishness.
A lot of unaware self aware people in here… Jesus.
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more self awareness is nice but too much can make you a hermit
