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Toddlers can cover the distance from the sidewalk to under a car tire faster than you can blink. Ill never judge a parent for having them on a leash.
The muzzle is a bit much though.
The little bag dispenser hanging off the handle is great if they’re not potty trained yet too.
For some children, they can teleport non edible items into their mouths. The muzzle is necessary
Are the lambs still screaming Clarice?
The muzzle isnt for the kids benefit, its for the rest of us!
And yet they’ll still complain. Bunch of ungrateful…
We never cared what other people thought, it gave our kid the chance to be running around in places where they’d have to be carried otherwise. Going through an airport alone with the kiddo becomes much easier, especially when all that want to do is to be running. Kid doesn’t care and gets to run, it’s an easy win.
Humans have build in leashes, it’s called holding hands
Get back to me when you actually have kids.
I will never look down on a parent with a leashed kid. Rather a safe kid on a leash than a dead kid in the streets.
I’ll often look down on a kid themselves, but only because it is impossible to regard a being who is less tall than me without looking down u.u
[explaining the joke]
Subverting expectation of disrespect by indicating purely physical and logistical reasons which contain no value judgement of another person and therefore no commentary upon the concept of respect
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I wasn’t ready for the explanation to be funny as well
Better a safe kid on a leash than a dead kid on a leash.
But just as fun, in its own way!
When you’re walking in a public place overrun with people, no separation between road and sidewalk, multiple other hazards and a toddler who only moves by running full speed, I do not see a problem with putting a harness and lead on the kid. Parents try their best to pay attention at all times, but when you’re this tired, it’s good to have the insurance. If you want to judge someone’s parenting, judge the ones who ignore their kids so they can spend more time on their phones
As a leasher, I know what I’m doing. My one kid is nuts. And you nailed it.
I never had anybody be a dick about it. Most people throw a pet joke, which is funny. But I can’t imagine taking offense to it.
Same here. There was well-intentioned (though silly) joke. However, right after I explained why I was using the leash, they were very understanding. Also met random people in Manila who praised me for it and said that it really needs to be more common (if there is a city where you need it, it’s Manila)
I draw the line at a choker chain, though.
Well, are we still talking about actual parents, or are we talking about a 'Mommy" or “Daddy”, because depending on the situation, I can totally support chokers.
People act like apronstrings weren’t a real thing
Apron strings? I never heard of that and didn’t find anything. That used to be a thing?
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I once saw a Mom at an information desk at an art museum take her fussy, fidgeting toddler, gently lay him down on the ground, and put her foot on him, Captain Morgan style:
Kid didn’t cry or try to escape. Thoroughly impressive. Might plant the seed to awaken something in the kid when he hits puberty, though.
I appreciate the helpful diagram
Kid heard the phrase “step on me mommy” and asked his mom what it meant, the mom pondered how to answer.
When my son was a toddler, I had an older aunt who had no children, but plenty of opinions on how they should be raised. We were visiting one time, and planned a visit to the zoo, and she just insisted that we had to get a leash for him, or he was so going to get away from us, and end up in an animal pen, and get eaten, presumably.
I refused her many orders to get a leash (I didn’t even know where to find one, this was before Amazon), and finally just flat out told her that there would be no leash, we would just have to do our jobs as parents and adults, and actually pay attention to him.
And he only got into animal pens a few times. He hardly got gnawed on at all. He was fine.
Get a leash! You want another gorilla to get shot?
He’s 27 now, and he won’t let me put him on a leash, even though he probably needs it more than ever.
JK, he grew up to be a great guy. You can hardly see the scars where he got chewed on.
This is precisely the 80s VHS parenting payoff I was hoping for
Seems I’m in a rare group where I think leashing kids is fine but also think that joking about it is fine. ¯\(ツ)/¯
Edit: fixed smiley (maybe?)
I’m in the same group. My kid is pretty young (just turning into a toddler) but I could see possibly needing to leash his ass in the future. I also would laugh my ass off if someone asked me in public if he was a stray or made some other joke about it.
Can’t take life too seriously but I get people might feel like the joke is insensitive. I suppose I also have a horrible sense of humor and what I find funny might be actually offensive to others at times so … ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Leashing kids I’m betting 8 times out of 10 is uncalled for and controlling and stupid.
But you don’t know circumstances, and let me tell you, I’ve met some kids. Sometimes it is appropriate, so I try not to judge.
Even if it is 2 out of 10 that it’s appropriate for, those people are going through enough shit without me side-eyeing them. Probably ain’t my business.
FYI, a leash gives a toddler more freedom than the alternatives. Strollers and hand holding both restrict movement a lot more than a leash.
Here’s a picture of your normal family OP
Oh so it’s okay when the KIDS are on a leash, but when I’m wearing one, I’m a “freak” and I’m “being asked to leave the costco”. Damn double standards… I could run into traffic TOO you know!
Huh, I don’t remember writing this comment
Well, you’re supposed to be wearing more than just the leash. Rookie mistake
And yeah, honestly I’m pretty sure my wife wishes she could get away with keeping me leashed in public. I get distracted and she worries I’ll walk into traffic
It wasn’t the leash, it was that all you were wearing was the leash… and also the not being potty trained the "marking* of stuff.
Gotta say, I’m appreciating the comments on this post a lot more this time around - last time this was posted there was a lot of anti-leashing sentiment.
I’m just trying to figure out - did the people on Lemmy change? Is it the time of day? Pretty sure it’s the same community as before!
Timezone is a big one
I’m interested in the previous one because I feel like I’m detecting some defensiveness stemming from that!
Me and my sister were on leashes as kids. Also we had a bouncer that you hung in a doorframe and I described this at preschool as “we hang our baby from the ceiling” 😅
Comments sometimes differ a lot on a per post basis tbh.
Fuck no, im a pro leash parent.
My mother leashed me and twin if she had us solo. Which is like. Fair? How you going to deal with two little runners by yourself?
Mother hated doing it though cause other people in the late 80s were so fucking judgemental about it.
Of all the shit in my childhood, being on a leash did not affect me. So leash them kiddies up.
It isn’t bizarre to the parent with a kid who will bolt, but still deserves to go outside.
Edit: Just to be clear, this is a pro leash comment.
My kids are very well behaved, not just compared to other ADHD, but to any other kid. However, let them pass the ADHD tipping point where they are too tired, excessively stimulated, over sugared, or god forbid, all 3 at the same time, and they will do the most insane shit just because 2 neurons accidentally bumped together and gave them some stray thought.
You know where those 3 things coincide? At the airport. Among crowds of thousands. Where you can actually lose a kid. I leashed my toddlers at the airport. This also lets you deal with gate attendants and baggage check in. Outside the airport I would tell them to hold my leg while I dealt with counter staff. That way I knew they were with me but had both hands free to deal with paperwork.
I agree with you. I can see now how my post could be interpreted as an argument against, but it was intended to be just the opposite.
The only way a toddler should be allowed on a plane is in the cargo hold
toddlers are not people
(/j)
We went millenia without toddlers needing to get on a plane. That’s one area where we’ve regressed as a society.
I’ve watched kids bolt. Some of you need to touch grass and interact with your neighbors.
Ok I was of this opinion until I had an autistic son. He’s crafty, fast and enjoys doing whatever he is told not to do. He’s almost run into traffic several times. We caught him, but barely, enough to make me reconsider this idea. I haven’t bought him one, but I understand.
