• Juice@lemmy.world
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    I’m baby-faced which keeps me sane but that resolve was shook a couple days ago when an 18 year old (that was born the year I graduated high school) found out my age and said I was old enough to be his dad 😔

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      In a few years you’ll think of how young you were when this 18 year old told you you could be their dad instead of grandpa like you’ll be told in those few years.

      Time scares me. I fear it.

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      Having. A babyface is kinda weird. 20 year olds talk to me like i had any idea what they are talking about. I’m always like: haha yeah no, i’m actually old.
      The other day i was standing in line and there was a family behind me. The mom did some Smalltalk with me and just for the fact that they had kids, i talked to her like i would to an old person. Like she was giving me some weird advice for some reason. Then i put one and one together and realised that they had a child when they were 20 and he was now 10-ish and they are actually 10 years younger than me.

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        i’m a millennial and i have family members who are younger than i am and they are grandparents several times over now. lol

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    Sometimes it’s weird to look back on middle school, and the teachers who brought our generation up as young kids being told about the future. I’m an adult now, and I feel like an adult now, but in a way it feels like I’m still a part of that group of dumb and naive kids. It doesn’t feel that long ago at all. But the reality is that all of us are now pushing 40, and our time there is now wholly irrelevant, and we’re so far removed from those years that it’s fucking wild. A lot of those teachers are probably dead now.

    I don’t know how to articulate what it is I’m meaning to say here. It’s just weird that we were kids so recently. I don’t feel like my life has gone by all that fast, but middle school to 40 somehow did all the same. I feel my age, and I feel as though I’ve lived to my age, but my memories don’t feel distant whatsoever. It feels like that was nine years ago.

    Just like I feel like I was still living at home with my dad a few years ago, but I’ve been living in another country away from my parents for 7 years now, and my dad had been dead since last May.

    He was such a good dad.

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      our parents felt the same thing

      Your dad simultaneously saw you as the baby who slept securely in his arms, the child he saw through junior school, the teen who he tried to help steer past his own mistakes and the adult he wistfully spoke of with pride

      Imagine how good he must feel to know that you remember him this way.

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      Condolences for your dad. 42 here, my dad is showing his age majorly now.

      Looking back I know I lived every single hour but huge leaps of time are just gone. Like, entire jobs I worked for years I have maybe a half dozen memories. On top of that our work product is gone, the company is gone, the building is gone, the entire industry is changed… it’s like it was all a dream. I definitely understand the old man looking at a city and saying, “this was all orchards”. I used to think it was a wistful phrase, but it’s also an expression of disbelief. When we were embedded it all seemed so important. But it all shuffled off with zero fanfare. It really changes how you experience life, and that’s how I “feel old”.

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      I lost my last grandparent this Easter. She was much younger then my other grandparents. The 3 of them would be over 120 years old now. I’m a millenial, I’m 40.

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        I took my kid to the doctor, and when we left she asked if we could go visit the places I grew up and went to school. Drove by my grade school but didn’t stop in, still in session. Went by my junior high and there was my science teacher, she was probably a few years from retirement.

        I said hi and we talked for a bit, told her “no, not a parent, you were my teacher almost 30 years ago”, and she got a huge smile on her face and was really happy one of her students recognized her and talked with her for a while.

        Made the trip worth it, but I am glad she didn’t remember me. Was a shithead kid in junior high, but I think we all kind of were at that age.

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          This is the absolute best gift you can give a teacher, to come back and say to us, “You made a difference; I remember you.”

          We don’t get to know if we really did anything unless this happens.

          Source: watching my mum as a 40+ year teacher and my own 10+ years in the profession.

          ETA: Space I could not live with.

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    I disagree. Time actually stopped around early 2010’s. Seasons change and shit, but stuff isn’t changing no more.

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      For fear of being told I’m old, I agree with that. Most all the previous decades has fairly obvious delimiters give or take a couple years. Once the internet and slab phones became ubiquitous it feels like things have melded and stopped changing as rapidly. With fashion we’ve gone cyclical with previous decades coming back in style too.

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    Depends who you ask, some would consider that age group to be the at the end of Gen X and some consider that the beginning of the millennial. So people in that age group can consider themselves members of both generations.

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      I’ve been getting aarp stuff since I was in my early twenties. I guess I deserve it though. I signed a bunch of my friends up to get a free box of depends.

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    Started growing my beard in, for the first time in years. It’s white. Hell yeah I’m old

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    It’s happening to me this year and I feel it. I’m going to be an old fart that I said I never wanted to be. Wish I owned a lawn to yell at kids to get off of, guess I’ll just have to settle with being grumpy in the hallway of my rental whenever I cross paths with another human.

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      I work in a school. I laugh and joke a lot with the teens. Sometimes I forget I’m not one of them and I’m 40. I’m just as immature as them, just more experienced. A lot of my coworkers forget what it was like to be a kid and how boring most of us are. School sucks, remember?

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      It’s happening to me this year and I feel it. I’m going to be an old fart that I said I never wanted to be. Wish I owned a lawn to yell at kids to get off of, guess I’ll just have to settle with being grumpy in the hallway of my rental whenever I cross paths with another human.

      i crossed that threshold a little 2 years ago and both my eye sight and hearing immediately started calling it quits once i hit 40. i always thought that being a stereotypical broke ass millennial would keep me young so long as i didn’t have a lawn or medicare to obsess over, but it’s clear that it’s not true since i’ve lost count how many times gen-z’ers misidentified me as a boomer and fellow millennials keep insisting on pushing the millennial birth year further up.