I dated a girl once who came round. She asked “are you going to give me the tour?”
I was like “uh, okay sure” so showed her around the living room, kitchen and back yard, before heading upstairs. I showed her the guest rooms and my room, and she sat on the bed and was like “it seems comfy in here”.
Right then I did what any guy would do, stopped for a moment, and said “it sure is. Now let’s head back downstairs and see what there is to watch”.
It was a good couple of years later when I thought back about it and it hit me like a train, “you fucking idiot”
Girls read this and say “A couple of years? Are you serious?”
Guys read this and nod their head. Every guy has a story like this, at least one.
I once had a girl in a bar tell me (after some flirting and kissing) that she was wearing white panties with pink hearts, to which I responded “That’s nice”.
In high school, I had a classmate that I was not yet in the ‘friends’ territory, but we knew each other and would make small talk. One day she asked me to come around and look at her family computer, usual ‘slow and acting weird’ stuff. Sure.
I go over, all prepped with a flash drive full of utilities, and get straight to work. After a bit, maybe an hour of just chatting while I run programs and make changes, she offers to show me her room. I mean, I’m just waiting for the progress bar, why not. So she leads me back and it’s a cozy room, all neat and tidy, and I stop in the doorway while she sits on the bed. I survey the room, I remember the bed being pink, like that of a flowers pedals (I don’t know names of flowers but you all know that one I’m talking about, pink with a shade of white making it a light pink). I said something about the room being nice or something, and she pats the bed next to her and offers that I sit.
“No thanks, I should probably get back to the computer to see how it’s doing.”
And I do just that. She asks for help twice more after that - and I’m just like ‘how are you this bad at computers’ but strangely the follow-up visits don’t show much for me to fix. Strange, why would she ask for help - and pay me - when it’s basically in pristine shape now?
About a decade later, it clicked. She was cute, tall, quite intelligent, and nice to talk to, but I’m both an idiot, and like 99.4% gay, so that makes sense. Had it been a guy, I would have connected the dots immediately.
Ah well, she had a better-than-new pc for quite a while, at least.
Well at least you have the gay excuse, but some people really are that dense lol
Decades later “You are more of a cuddler then I expected” still echos in my head after spending the night with a girl that clearly liked me that spent all day telling dirty jokes to.
Sigh, at least I’m not alone in my obliviousness. Can i stop beating myself up about it now? How about all those other unrelated past mistakes i made, can i stop beating myself up about those too? Sigh.
Life’s too short to get hung up on it, friend.
I know it’s easy for me to say, but each success; mistake; and blatantly oblivious sign that they’re DTF missed are all learning experiences.
It makes you who you are now, and that’s kinda awesome. You’re better than who you were before. Onwards and upwards!
Thanks for the good thoughts, at the very least you put a smile on my face :)
Our stuff is a reflection of our desires, decisions and personality. Its normal to want to share it socially. Its totally fine if you don’t want to also.
I live in a small apartment, and when standing in the middle of the kitchen you can see almost all of if. So when I have new people over I like to ask if they want a tour then point to that spot and tell them to go there, then I say “ok, look around, that’s everything! Nice, huh?” There are generally only two different reactions: “Haha! Yeah, it is nice!” or “Oh, come on, it’s not that bad!”. I never say it in a way that makes it sound like I think it’s bad or too small, but people who have the second reaction generally like bigger and “more”.
It’s the perfect size for me, wouldn’t choose a bigger one even for the same price.
Yeah… no. It’s so you don’t have to ask me where the bathroom is later.
I guess some don’t want to ask for the bathroom but it’s pretty common to be curious about someone’s home
I wasn’t saying it wasn’t, I was just disagreeing with the OP. Personally I find it pretty uncomfortable to be in a house I don’t know the layout of.
Stand in the middle of my living room and look around. Now you’ve seen my house. Want to see my tool shed too?
The gatekeepers have deemed my shed too interesting for that community so I no longer post pictures from there.
I never understood this - I think giving people a tour of your house is such a weird thing to do.
I honestly just think it’s to show off. The only houses I’ve gotten the tour of have been the really big expensive houses.
That’s weird. I’ve given and received tours in all sorts of apartments and homes. It is a little weird but it’s a social convention. People mainly wanna know where the bathrooms are and if they’re a house guest, get an idea of where they should especially respect privacy.
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I have cool posters and easter eggs around the kitchen and living room that I love to show to people (and some party tricks like a folding couch). It’s not flexing really 🤷♂️
Uhh, that’s kind of the definition of showing off? (It’s fine, I’m not complaining. But let’s call it what it is.)
I wouldn’t describe my 35sqm 1 bedroom apartment S “really big and expensive”
Oh, I’m not complaining. Shopping around zillow and looking through peoples houses is a guilty pleasure of mine. I enjoy the tours.
The correct answer is, “Yes. I saved all the pictures from Zillow.”
I’m not sure. For me entering someone else’s home is a slightly disconcerting experience. Things are similar but obviously different. Being given a house tour immediately makes me feel a lot more relaxed and … at home in that similar-but-different space.
This is not something I’ve ever offered, only show the rooms of the house if someone asks to see the house.
Oddly enough, the bedrooms aren’t always included in a house tour.
Too private I guess
Here’s me enjoying getting a tour and giving tours. It’s nice because you include each other in each others life.
Yes.
