They shouldn’t be able to do that!

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    I have no issue with this whatsoever. I block people so that I don’t need to see their posts, not that they couldn’t see mine. If you don’t want others reading what you post online, then don’t post online.

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      Also, while other locations in the Fediverse might disable access to unauthenticated persons, comments and post in Lemmy are generally public in that way. So, a blocked user could simply logout (or visit from a different instance) to see the content.


      Also, as a third-party I do want someone (e.g. a fact checker) to be able reply to a comment with more information, so that I can see it, even if the commenter doesn’t want to see replies (from the “woke mob” or wikipedians, e.g.).

      I understand some people think the reply thread under their comments is somehow “owned” and should be “controlled” by them, but I don’t agree. I think this should also be true in most places on the Fediverse, tho it isn’t (as I understand it) on Mastodon (and the like).

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      Perhaps some people want others reading what they post online but don’t want to be bullied.

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        You can block bullies. They can continue to waste their time writing mean messages but those will never reach you.

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      Yeah, by blocking them you are saying YOU don’t want to see their posts. That doesn’t mean you get to make that decision for everyone else. I don’t see the problem here.

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        I never had a twitter account, but made a bsky account just to support people moving away from there even though I’d them they move to mastodon.

        Anyway, I saw a post claiming a certain fetish term was now forbidden because it was being used a slur. I commented that I’ve only ever heard it used to refer to a real person when the person in question was using it to describe themselves. I got some positive responses, but the ended up getting blocked from replying when they disagreed with me. Can 3rd parties see blocks or did it just look like I chickened out?

        I didn’t care for that and I think these little “features” of twitter that people have gotten use to has twisted how to interact with other people. On reddit or lemmy, the topic is the main focus and the people managing the topic should be the only ones who control what gets said there. With twitter and bsky, the opening post is the main focus and they get control of what gets said. I prefer the former over that latter.

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          Reddit also blocks you from replying. Not just to that person, but to the comment thread in general. So many people do the insult-block to “win” a conversation.

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            The mods of the sub are the ones to decide who gets blocked though. Not the person you’re auguring with, unless you’re arguing with is a mod.

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              The mods can ban you, but anyone can block you and stop you from commenting on threads they are involved in.

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                Aren’t blocks visible on reddit though? It’s been a while since I used it, so maybe I forgot. At the very least, it was considered bad form there outside of direct harassment. I think I was only stalked and harassed once though reddit comments and I just called them out on it to end it.

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                  Sort of. The posts show as ‘Unavailable’ and you get an esoteric error if you try to reply to a thread they’re involved in. It doesn’t say outright that you’re blocked though.

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      I think communicating that someone is blocked is a useful part of blocking. Even if it’s just a notification after comment “you have a blocked reply, it will not be visible to the poster”.

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      A block should also be able to prevent them from seeing your activity. That would not constitute silencing the blocked individual as they can still go anywhere and talk to/see anyone else on the fediverse, just not you.

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        There is a need for more precise terminology. We should refer to “block” as stopping someone from interacting with you or your submissions/comments and “mute”/“ignore” as making it so that the person’s own actions cannot be seen by you.

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        If you don’t want everyone seeing your activity, don’t post it on a public internet system. Blocks can easily be circumvented.

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      I could see someone being frustrated that from a third party, it looks like you are not responding to a reply and that person could spin that as a concession that they were right

      I could see a compromise, where a direct reply from such a blocked/muted person is allowed, but indicated so that people are aware a response could not have been done.

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    How is it not fair? You get to decide what you can see and say. You don’t get to decide what I can see and say.

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    That style of blocking makes sense for more personal social media, but I don’t think it fits a public forum like the Threadiverse. On Reddit, bad actors were able to weaponize blocking to hide from anyone who would disagree with them, anyone who would push back against misinformation. That did a lot more harm than good.

    Everything you post here is public, and you should expect that anyone can see it, even people you do not like. If you don’t want to see someone you don’t like, that’s what blocking is for, but you shouldn’t expect to be able control who can see your posts when they’re all public to begin with.

    If something is so sensitive that you think you need to hide it from someone you don’t like, then this probably isn’t the platform to post it on at all.

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        My main experience with blocking is when people use it to “get the last word” in an argument. They’ll write up a response - often containing questions and challenges to my position - and then immediately block me after posting it so that it will look like I gave up in the face of their arguments.

        I usually just edit my previous comment with whatever responses seem necessary, playing an Uno Reverse on them since they’ll be the ones who never see it.

        It’s still rather annoying, though, because if other people also respond Reddit’s brain-dead implementation prevents me from responding to other people who have responded to someone who blocked me.

        I am glad that the Fediverse has a much more sane approach to blocking that doesn’t let it be weaponized like that.

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          The worst part IMO is that if they commented anywhere in the chain you’re blocked from that entire chain. Say you’re having a nice conversation back and forth about something, then they reply to the original comment (not even seeing you) now you’re blocked from the entire thread of comments.

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          At the time when I became inactive on Reddit, Azerbaijan was building up to finish the Nagarno Karrabach conflict once and for all. There was a lot of blatant anti Armenian, pro Azerbaijani misinformation being posted in relevant discussions (that they were tolerant, only wanting peace, there was never any ethnic cleansing, …), and most of those comments went without anyone posting a simple fact check to debunk it.

          I suspected that they had been sharing a blocklist and had blocked most of those who would call them out on their bullshit. I didn’t bother either since I just expected to be blocked as well and I had basically given up on the platform anyhow. I found swapping accounts to read threads annoying as hell, so it was easier to not comment and just be silently disappointed in humanity.

          The fact checks that I did see at the time, were mostly posted as a reply to the top comment of the chain, hoping to go unnoticed by the one spreading misinformation, but that will only work for so long. Reddit is fucked when it comes to discussing political news or gauging public opinion (imo), it’s now designed for spreading misinformation (imo again).

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      I’d call what you’re describing “muting” rather than blocking.

      I used to agree with you, but then I spoke with some people from persecuted minorities, and this style of blocking just gives power to their abusers rather than keeping their communities and themselves safe.

      Yes they can get a new account, but it’s another hurdle, and if we erect enough hurdles then it’ll catch enough of them. Defense in depth.

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        We’ve seen the problems with Reddit’s style of blocking already.

        If someone’s being truly abusive, that’s something you should report to moderators or instance admins.

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          I agree it has problems, but that doesn’t mean that anything is better.

          Reporting someone is good, but isn’t that subject to the exact same reasons why “it won’t work”? If reddit style blocking someone isn’t effective anyways, why would admin bans be effective?
          This assumes that admins and mods even have the capacity to deal with all this shit, which seems to be very uncertain.

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            I don’t understand what you mean. Moderator bans do work, that’s a moderator’s job.

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              a common response I’ve been getting is “blocking doesn’t work, they just need to make a new account”
              but then they say “if its really a problem, then they just need to report the user”
              but if making a new account would defeat blocking, then making a new account would defeat reporting a user. its either effective in both places or neither place.

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                That isn’t what I said. You’re replying to me to talk about somebody else’s argument, while completely ignoring mine.

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                  sorry i was getting it mixed up, i’ve had a very similar conversations a few times and that rebuttal came up multiple times.

                  mods and admins are overworked, and they can’t always be expected to keep up to date with dogwhistles along with everything else they have to manage. besides, harassment doesn’t always appear to break ToS - starting rumours and spreading lies about someone can be very difficult to prove to a mod, but can have huge repercussions in some communities.
                  and besides, it can take a while before mods/admins are able to take action.

                  IMO I think a few things should exist.

                  I should be able to prevent someone from replying to my content even if I can’t prevent them from seeing it.
                  Additionally, I think there should be a best effort to make invite-only/private communities. I know that the fediverse makes this technically difficult, but having something is better than having nothing.

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      Some users would write their reply and then quickly block the other person so their points couldn’t be contested.

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    That’s why I love Voyager for mobile viewing. Not sure the feature’s exclusivity, but you can tag people and add up or downvotes to their accounts total. For instance, you were at +70 upvotes from me. But if I didn’t like you, I could add a tag to your account with why or whatever, and add -1000, effectively highlighting, for me, how much less I enjoy your input compared to others. It doesn’t hide their bullshit but makes it super obvious who sucks complete ass!

    Along the vein of blocking, I like how lemmy does it. I can see the block person left a comment and choose to read it or ignore it.

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    This is like putting up a tall fence to obscure the view of your neighbors and being surprised they don’t cease existing on the other side

    You don’t want to just block users, you want to unilaterally ban them

    There’s a difference between fair and just

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      I want to stop them from engaging with me. I don’t want to let them keep engaging with me without my ability to see what they’re saying.

      Edit: Give persecuted minorities a way to protect themselves.
      This comes from discussions I’ve had with minorities about the harassment they face on Lemmy and mastodon, and the current block mute feature is more harmful than helpful.

      If you’re using “block” to curate your content, then it works great. If you’re trying to prevent harassment, then it’s counterproductive

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        Engagement is a two-way street. By blocking them you have stopped engaging with them.

        The fact that you’re upset by what other people are doing somewhere that you can’t see and that doesn’t affect you seems like a you problem, frankly. Just forget about them.

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          This isn’t about me, this is about what people from persecuted minorities have told me they need, when I bought this exact argument to them.

          I used to say what you’re saying them they described to be the harassment that they face

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            Ah… Would reporting them rather than blocking be more appropriate, then? I recognize reporting isn’t always effective, but the right answer seems to be getting the community to police it rather than hiding your commentary from them.

            And I recognize I’m speaking from a dearth of experience, here - this isn’t something I’ve dealt with, so I’m genuinely asking!

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              I’m generally trying to go off of a conversation I had with someone 2 years ago in lemmy. I was generally of the opposite opinion to my current stance, and they explained how the current “everything is public, dont even try to hide it from people” stance is problematic to persecuted minorities. It was 2 years ago so I’m a bit fuzzy on the details - I had to go look it up because someone didnt believe that the conversation even existed, but i didnt re-read the whole comment section.

              their point was that, while total privacy in a federated service is likely impossible, you want to make it non-trivial for harassers to do harassment.

              reporting is absolutely more appropriate than blocking, but blocking has a few advantages:

              1. its immediate, you dont need to wait for mods/admin.
              2. you don’t need to prove to an admin that something that the harasser said about you is actually a lie.
              3. mods/admins don’t need to be up-to-date on all the current dogwhistles
              4. it doesn’t need to actually affect the harasser beyond you. they dont need to get banned from the whole community or instance, unless the community or instance feels like they should be. its lower impact. This is important for lemmy communities that represent real communities, like classes or teams or neighborhoods.
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                  Because they can spread lies about me that I can’t see, to people who come to engage with me.

                  Not everyone is a stranger, you can have communities for real world groups.

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            In that case substitute “they” for “you” in my comment. The meaning remains the same, as does my position.

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              Oh god, did Lemmy turn into a libertarian hellscape while I wasn’t looking?

              What are your opinions on community bans, since all your arguments apply equally to those. Let me see you rectify those positions.

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                When did an appreciation for free speech become the exclusive domain of the Libertarians? I don’t want you to be able to unilaterally silence me, therefore I’m a Libertarian?

                What are your opinions on community bans, since all your arguments apply equally to those. Let me see you rectify those positions.

                Community bans are the domain of a select few individuals who are responsible for maintaining the overall state of the community. If they abuse their power then the community suffers and people should go elsewhere.

                Personally, I’d rather a system where one could “subscribe” to specific moderators so that if one goes rogue people could choose to unsubscribe from their moderation actions, that would IMO be the best combination of freedom and control. But I can understand that being rather complicated to implement well and perhaps a little confusing for the users, so I’m okay with the current setup as a compromise.

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                  How is “not letting you see what I personally wrote” consider to be “unilaterally silencing you” ?
                  What a mind bogglingly disingenuous response.

                  I’m not saying that the reddit style block is good.
                  I’m saying that the current “mute” style block hangs vulnerable people out to dry.

                  I’m ok trying something else, like maybe what you suggested.

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            This isn’t about me, this is about what people from persecuted minorities have told me they need, when I bought this exact argument to them.

            The same arguments apply, though.

            Your version of blocking doesn’t exactly handle the problem you’re describing well, either, as someone wishing to spread hate or “off-screen harassment” can block their direct target which, under the model, will mean they can’t see it, and then post.

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              To use a bit of hyperbole and a physical metaphor:

              I can let them burn my effigy in my front yard, or I can force them to go burn it in their own neighborhood.
              They’re still burning the effigy and littering, but at least it’s not outside my front door, scaring away all the people who come to visit me.

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        If you care what they are saying, you shouldn’t block them. If you don’t care, you shouldn’t care they are commenting on you.

        I don’t want other people being able to hide criticism of their posts/comments they don’t like from me. Allowing you to completely block engagement with your posts would just strengthen echo chambers and bolster misinformation IMO.

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          What I’m saying also protects vulnerable communities at least a little, and what you’re saying leaves them vulnerable.

          If they’re able to comment on my content I’m my communities, then I need to be able to see if they’re spreading misinformation about me to my friends and acquaintances. Rather than just blind myself to that, I’d rather put barriers between my content and their ability to do that.

          Imo protecting people from harassment is more important than protecting my ability to combat misinformation on some strangers’ posts.

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            You might be better served using the “report” button if you are indeed dealing with harassment. That would be the appropriate tool for such things.

            But I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you want to be able to just unilaterally punish anyone you don’t like.

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              That’s a limb that wouldn’t support your weight.

              I used to support your concept of block, until I was in a thread like this one, and someone from a minority community explained to me the consequences of these design decisions

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                You want to at the click of a button stop everyone from reading something you don’t want to see. If you dislike reading a persons comments, then you can block them and no longer see what they write. If you are being harassed you can report it, but what you want to do is police other users as a regular user.

                You are also making the “won’t someone think of the children” argument as your (so far) only point.

                This is a place of public discourse, what you want can be achieved using a txt editor and a friend.

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                  “won’t someone think of the children” isn’t always wrong.

                  What’s absolutely crazy to me is that you say “blocking won’t work because they can get a new account” and then in the very same breath suggest that reporting is a viable strategy. Either it is or it isn’t, which is it?

                  Public/private discourse is a false dichotomy. What are your thoughts on a community’s ability to ban someone? Should groups lose that ability, since apparently it’s both ineffective and toxic, apparently?

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            Then go to a private platform. This is a platform for public discourse, not private communities.

            PS: You could even make a community on lemmy and ban people as it’s moderator. Although a different platform may still be a better fit.

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                Please go make your own place where those minorities (whoever they are) can do whatever they want.

                • Them before you put words in their mouth to make a terrible argument.
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                  i mean, i’ve linked you to the conversation I had.

                  have you tried to talk to anyone about it? or are you just some white dude confidently saying that nobody should change anything because it works for you, so it should work for everyone else?

                  because you really sound like that.

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                I had a feeling playing the victim and name calling was coming next after your last message.

                But just in case anyone arguing in good faith needs it spelled out: Not every thing has to cater to every audience. Lemmy, at least for me, is primarily for sharing information, whether news, opinions or just memes. On such a site, I believe it is more important to avoid echo chambers and misinformation. So it requires a moderator or an admin to ban people. It’s not as if Lemmy is an unmoderated hellscape, it just leans more towards free speech over creating perfectly safe spaces than you may like. Avoiding echo chambers and misinformation benefits all users, including minorities. Therefore, every site hast to find a balance for it’s use-case. I would expect many people, whether minorities or otherwise, can handle occasional mean words or words they disagree with on their screens. But it is also alright if you are more sensitive or not in a good place psychologically and don’t want to deal with this. There are other places on the internet you can go, that do have the kind of blocking you want. Some places will lean towards free speech, some towards heavy moderation. That’s the great thing about the internet, not every place has to be the same.

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                  I’m sorry for the way I spoke

                  We’re missing the point here though. People are dragging op through shit for wanting a totally reasonable thing to want.

                  Maybe Lemmy isn’t going to provide it, but they don’t deserve to be treated like this for just bringing up something that is pretty clearly confusing to people who dgaf about the underlying protocols

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        I’m sorry, but I feel like you need to support the statement “This comes from discussions I’ve had with minorities about the harassment they face on Lemmy and mastodon” a bit more. Your whole argument for limiting the speech of others is predicated on this statement.

        I’m not saying that minorities couldn’t face harassment on Lemmy, but Lemmy is by far the most liberal and minority supportive online forum I have ever experienced. Part of the reason Lemmy is so niche is because it doesn’t have the mainstream attention other platforms have and is heavily moderated.

        If you are engaging in an instance where harassment is occurring the moderators generally ban the person quickly. If the moderators of that instance aren’t doing their job people generally leave and the instance dies from lack of content (there just aren’t that many people on Lemmy). If someone follows you from a different instance to another the current instance moderators will likely ban them even if the one you met them on doesn’t. Finally, if they are direct messaging you you can block them, they can continue to message you but you won’t see their messages and neither will anyone else.

        What minority group have you talked with that are receiving harassment and what extra protections were needed that aren’t already here?

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          the discussion was 2 years old, so I’m a bit fuzzy - it looks like it was only 1 person. but it was enough to convince me from basically saying what yall are saying here “don’t expect privacy on a public site” to “there should be an attempt at privacy, and people facing harassment should have some measure of control to protect themselves”

          I didnt feel the need to make the provide their credentials as a minority and prove to me that they’re being harassed and that muting the harasser wasn’t enough. What they said made sense.

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            Looking at the post you reference the person you talked to is a transgender person who moderates both LGBTQ+ and Transfem in Lemmy.blahaj.zone, they provide more than enough evidence of their minority status, but that wasn’t really needed. The question was what group was being harassed and thus this interaction would imply that the LGBTQ community is being harassed on Lemmy.

            What I feel like you missed in your previous discussion is that the other person was talking about privacy in the context of being outed in the real world. The harassment being referred to was in the context of your real life identity being revealed or connected to your online conversation.

            There’s no such thing. They are mutually exclusive. Take queer folk for example. We need privacy to be able to talk about our experiences without outing ourselves to the world. It’s especially important for queer kids, and folk that are still in the closet. If they don’t have privacy, they can’t be part of the community, because they open themselves to recognition and harassment in offline spaces.

            Under this context they are looking for a feature similar to how Facebook (at least previously) allowed you to pick who could see your post as you were posting it. That way you could individually disallow specific people or groups from seeing them.

            This doesn’t imply that the issue is that someone is being harassed on Lemmy and thus we need better blocking options. It’s really only an issue for someone who wants to dox themselves and still have private conversations, in which case Lemmy and most online forums can’t accomplish that natively across all instances/subreddits/groups. The only solution is to have a private instance with vetting and heavy moderation. If you don’t dox yourself you can generally avoid the whole issue here.

            Based on this I think you’re making a different argument than what the block feature is or ever could be.

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              You’re right, that was a different conversation. And I’m not part of that group so I can’t say for sure.

              What I’m trying to do is take what I learned there and extrapolate it. I think there is some overlap.
              At the very least, I don’t think OP deserves to be dragged like they were for what is to me a pretty reasonable take. In Lemmy, blocking someone acts like getting blocked on pretty much every platform, which is going to be confusing for many

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                At the very least, I don’t think OP deserves to be dragged like they were for what is to me a pretty reasonable take. In Lemmy, blocking someone acts like getting blocked on pretty much every platform, which is going to be confusing for many

                I can agree that I understand the confusion and I also don’t think the OP deserves to get dragged for their initial post, but I think their opinion is fundamentally flawed and the reason they got dragged is mostly because they went in the comments trying to defend their opinion. The problem is that the term “Social Media” has gotten so hackneyed that multiple different things are all called Social Media and the rules of the most common version are expected in the others.

                Growing up Social Media referred to Social Networks which are user-centric platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Myspace (I guess potentially TikTok) where you create an account which is central to your experience on the website. Connections on these platforms are made through creating individual friends lists and following specific users which makes it super easy to block someone in the manner described. Now basically everything is called Social Media, including forums and image boards. On an image board or forum you might have to create an account, but the experience was more defined by going through an index of posts not connected to your account. Places like Digg, Reddit, Tumblr, Pinterest, 4chan, and any random ass forum functioned pretty similarly to how blocking works on Lemmy. In most cases the blocked user can still see any public posts you make; they may not be able to search for your posts within their account or respond to your messages directly, but they typically could still see your posts and respond to other people in a thread (even your own). The only exception to this is if they posted on a forum (or subreddit/instance/board/blog) you moderated or otherwise controlled. In some cases Social Networks and image boards are similar, if you run a blog on Tumblr it functions more like a Social Network but if you only browse other people’s public blogs then it functions like an image board

                The whole argument is basically “Why don’t forums work like social networks?”

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      How can you have a stalker on an anonymous internet account? Or do you mean like a person who comments on your public Internet posts?

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        My accounts are not anonymous. Not even my Lemmy account is, for example my husband is also a follower of my account here because I want to interact with people I know about the things I see.

        But you never know how things turn out with people. You give someone you think is a friend your name on a social platform because you think you could share a meme once in a while, and it turns out they are mentally ill and screenshot all your posts, print them out and decorate their house with them. Creepy af. You make a comment about how some product looks cool and they send it to you in the mail and expect you to be grateful for it even when you don’t want it from them and never asked for it. You make one comment that can be vaguely interpreted as being unhappy with your partner like “lol my husband bought cucumbers instead of zucchini” and he will bombard him about how he is about to get dumped for being stupid and how he will replace him. Absolutely mental. But turns out if you block these kinds of people, they just forget you exist. They don’t even bother checking if they are blocked because in their head they never did anything wrong so why would they be.

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        Precisely because blocking here doesn’t do anything really. On a different platform the feature made me invisible to the person and it helped reduce their obsession with me massively. Out of sight out of mind is true for a lot of people.

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      Well yes, that’s what I tell my kids, but they could write anything and I couldn’t check it…

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        Ahh, I see the problem.

        Blocking here is just ignoring people you don’t agree with, what you’re looking for is a way to punish them for not agreeing.

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          Got me in the first half, but no, I want them to leave me alone. That’s what ignore should be all about.

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            But they are leaving you alone. You can’t see their comment if you blocked them. They could be screaming like a monkey with rabies and you’ll never notice.

            If the idea that they can still comment bothers you, then you indeed want to punish them, rather than just ignore them.

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              But they are leaving you alone

              But they’re really not though, if they’re commenting on your post, whether or not you can see it

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                When you have blocked someone, and they comment on your post, do they come to your front door and start yelling?

                Are they standing across the road with a large, vulgar sign?

                Do you get a phone call?

                Do you in any way get notified?

                Can you even see their comment?

                If you answer “no” to the above, then you are left alone. They are no longer your concern. If you’re still concerned, then that’s a problem in your head.

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                Technically, that’s still leaving YOU alone. They’re just talking behind your back. And people I’ve blocked probably have, but I don’t know and I don’t care. I don’t need to silence others to stop listening to them.

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              Yes, they blocked me, and I’m calling them a nanner-head for all of you to see. But they don’t know they’ve been called a nanner-head behind their back, so they’ve been left alone. Now they only know they’re being called a nanner-head on the internet if someone shows them a screenshot. Being called a nanner-head behind their back on the public internet is not likely to affect them in real life, so what’s the harm?

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                Oh no! The potential that someone is mocking me, behind my back, without me witnessing or knowing it, really keeps me awake at night!

                I mean, really. If you’ve gone so far as to block someone, do you even care that they’re mocking you?

                If so, why? And are you aware that someone can mock you, or spread crap about you behind your back, without explicitly needing the ability to comment on your threads?

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          No, there’s enough nonsense going on, too many idiots and even more bots, it’s not punishment, there’s no way to have a conversation with people who don’t engage in any way that is productive, it’s a waste of my time

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    If I block someone, and one of their posts or comments gets reported for moderation, it won’t allow the moderation tools to work. I have to un-block them to moderate them.

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        Yes, except that you won’t see the reports on your other account and will have to periodically check your moderator accounts.

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        When you click on a report, it should bypass any block, it doesn’t.

        This isn’t organically viewing a post, it’s responding to a report and it is visible when reported.

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    The way Reddit does is abusive. I called out a guy for spamming, he blocked me, he’s the one who creates TV discussion threads, I can’t participate anymore.

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      they block evade by using another account to restart the conservation, or they get mad if you block them, then they try to mass report you.

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      The way Reddit does is abusive.

      Yes, but counterpoint: it was also petty and satisfying as fuuuuck hammering someone with your last point and then blocking them so that after they write up their long-ass reply outlining why eugenics is the true path to a glorious white future, they end up getting an error message.

      Yah, it was very bad for actual discourse, but that ship has sailed. people don’t care about debate and discourse anymore, on almost every social media site people post things as stand-alone displays to viewers for points, never engaging with each other unless there’s a contentious point that can be leveraged for up-arrows and thumbs.

      We have to get back to talking to each other in real life and stop pretending having introversion or social anxiety is anything but an obstacle to community and a better world

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    Because the alternative is easily abused, see all the issues Reddit has with this type of block mechanism.

    The core of the problem as I see it is, this gives every user limited moderation powers in every sub, the extent of that power is determined mainly just by how much they post and comment (blocked users can’t comment under their posts, and can’t reply to any comment in a chain started by the blocker), and the extent to which it is happening is invisible to most users. People advocating for this seem to assume it will be used mostly defensively, to prevent harassment, but the feature has way more utility offensively, and it’s totally unaccountable. If there is something someone is saying (not even necessarily to you) that you don’t like for whatever reason, whether or not it’s against the rules and regardless of what anyone else thinks about it, you can partially silence them by blocking and then working to get engagement in the same spaces they comment in. Think about if this was implemented on Lemmy, lots of communities have only one or a few people making all the posts, if one or more of them blocked you that’s almost the same as a ban. It doesn’t make it better that the people making those posts are often also moderators, because it would be a way to pseudo ban people without it showing up in the mod log.

    Moderation of online discussion spaces should be transparent and accountable, it shouldn’t be a covert arms race between users.

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      The current system doesn’t stop that version of abuse though it just means it can only happen in the opposite direction. The abuse you’re implying still occurs.

      Seems to me you shouldn’t be able to reply directly but you should be able to see the comments that way you could reply elsewhere in the thread if you want. Or the other people in the comment chain even.

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        I do think it would be less bad if it only prevented direct comment replies, and not replies to top level posts or replies to other comments by other people further down the thread.

        I don’t understand what you mean by it still occurs in the other direction though. Nobody can prevent people from commenting except moderators and admins, which is how it should be. Mute style blocking isn’t moderation because it doesn’t affect anyone’s ability to comment, it’s effectively the same as a client level filter.

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          Well think about it, you say it’s abuse because someone can use blocking to change how conversations work right? They can make replies the other person can’t respond. That same thing can still happen. Yeah harass someone to the point they block you and then you continue to harass them by making replies that they can’t see and changing how the conversation of this forum works. It’s the exact same thing. Just opposite direction.

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            I’ve blocked a bunch of people, who may be replying to me with harassing comments, but that isn’t influencing what I do. It might influence the overall conversation, and that could be a problem, but I think the way that problem is dealt with should be public, because the problem is public, it’s not something that’s exclusively my problem. I don’t think I should have the authority to act to police any arbitrary community like that, especially without anyone being able to know that I’m doing it.

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              yea it usually ends with the troll commenting"for your information it spelled like this or its discussed this way" followed with insulting comment" go back and learn how to do this or that before commmenting" i immediately block grammar nazis too.

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    From a technical standpoint, doing it in another way requires your blocks to be public.

    He and you are both publishing individual comments with metadata telling which thread and where in it that these entries go. The instance hosting the community simply pull all these entries together. To cut off that response then your instance must tell that hosting instance to detach that reply from the blocked user. Currently Lemmy doesn’t support any such thing.

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    I don’t mind it, but if the devs change it I hope they don’t take the Reddit route that prevents you from replying to any comment chain the user is in, especially with how small Lemmy is. Direct replies I can understand.